The Other Side
He was a Scottish guy, and we met here in Hungary. He was polite with my family and always attentive and caring with me. After two years, we got engaged, and he took me to Scotland to meet his family. That’s when I saw a completely different side of him. He acted like a spoiled, selfish, arrogant kid. His family worshipped him, pampered him, and expected me to "submit" to him too. They made it clear I was just some Eastern European nobody who had somehow caught their wonderful son, and my fiancé went along with it. I was still in love, but as soon as we got home, I called off the engagement. I’m lucky I saw his true colors before marrying him.
The Center
Our baby boy was born, and he couldn’t handle not being the most important person in my life anymore. I loved him, but his jealousy made our life impossible.
Five Sad Women
My girlfriend and I still loved each other, but we didn’t like each other anymore. We tried staying together for two years, but it didn’t work—none of us was happy. The day I said it was over, I cried for her, our moms, her sister, and my sister. Of course, I cried like a child myself, but it was the right choice.
Grief
My mother passed away, and I never got any emotional support from him. He never once asked if I was okay. That’s when I realized we had different values.
Alcohol Haze
We were happy because we were in love and partied every night, drinking and enjoying the wild life. After three years, I realized this lifestyle wasn’t sustainable long-term—starting the day with alcohol just isn’t normal. I wanted us to sober up together and start fresh, but he didn’t understand what was wrong or why I suddenly became “boring.” I chose sobriety, and sadly, that meant leaving him.
Betrayed
One day, my roommate came home to find my girlfriend sleeping in the other roommate’s bed. She begged me for two months to forgive her, saying she was stupid and loved me, but I couldn’t trust her anymore. The worst part? I was on my way to buy an engagement ring when I found out.
Money Troubles
We lived together, and every time we finally got ahead financially, he blew the money. Sometimes he “invested” in something that went nowhere, other times he bought ridiculous things like a flashy but unreliable sports car. I tried for ten years but realized he would never change or be reliable. I left, and suddenly my financial worries disappeared.
Dilemma
After five years together, he still couldn’t decide if he saw a future with me. I gave everything to the relationship, but he doubted us, so I had to make the decision for both of us.
Different Goals
I wanted to keep working for years because I love my job and am successful at it, but he wanted a housewife to have kids and serve warm dinners. We loved each other but realized we wanted different things from life.
The Decision
We’d been together for ten years when one evening he mentioned a job opportunity but didn’t want to say more yet. I nodded quietly, thinking he’d explain when ready. A week later, I got a message from his brother’s girlfriend about the exciting move, and his mom called to congratulate us on our “new life.” It turned out the opportunity was a two-year job in Finland, and he made the decision to move after discussing it with everyone but me. He assumed I’d go with him. He was shocked when I told him I was leaving.
