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For the First Time, My Boss Is Younger Than Me — Here’s How That Feels

Schuster Borka3 min read
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For a long time, I was the youngest person everywhere I worked, and I really enjoyed that. I was talented at what I did, so I quickly got tasks others only received years later. I loved seeing the surprise on people’s faces when they realized how young I was. There was something sweet and fun about that feeling. I was the "wonder kid" at my workplaces, the one everyone predicted a bright future for.

For a while, it felt natural. In your twenties, it’s easy to believe you’ll stay young forever.

Then one day, like everything else, it just passes

The first sign is that no one asks about your age anymore. Not because it’s a secret, but simply because it’s no longer interesting. Then younger colleagues start to appear—obviously younger than you. Over time, there are more and more, and they’re not just fresh interns.

Soon enough, you’re the one joking at the lunch table about how cheekily young a talented team member is. Then, in the blink of an eye, you’re introduced to a new boss who’s younger than you. Much younger.

This is my first time in that situation. Someone I work with holds a higher position than me and is several years younger.

Strange? To some extent, yes—like any new experience in life can feel strange. But how does it feel exactly?

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Honestly? It doesn’t bother me at all.

Partly because I’ve consciously shaped my own career path. There was a time when I could have taken the route where you manage more tasks, carry more responsibility, and your job title keeps getting longer. Along with that, the salary grows, but so does the weight of your decisions.

That’s a completely valid path.

But I chose a different path. Not because I lacked ambition, but because I realized I thrive in a different kind of work. One where expertise matters most, where thinking, creating, content, and above all, personal freedom are at the center. Not one focused on managing people, solving organizational issues, and constantly navigating a hierarchy.

This isn’t a better or worse career. It’s simply different.

Gen Z working

And when you honestly accept that, somehow the sharp edge of hierarchy fades away. I don’t feel like people are "below" or "above" me. It’s more about different roles in a shared effort.

If that weren’t enough to enjoy working with someone younger and in a higher position, there’s another reason: I genuinely appreciate the younger generation.

I love that they want to prove themselves. That they bring energy, ideas, and curiosity. They respond quickly and aren’t afraid to try new solutions.

At the same time, they have something earlier generations often lacked: they don’t want to sacrifice themselves on the altar of work. Their own time, life, and making sure what they do fits who they truly are is important.

And honestly, I deeply respect that.

Maybe because over time, you realize how easy it is to get swept into a career you didn’t really choose. You just kept climbing the next "logical" step.

Working with a younger leader means seeing one simple thing: someone else chose a different path—and followed it.

And I’m walking my own path.

So it doesn’t bother me at all that my boss is younger than me. In fact, it feels great to work with someone full of energy and ambition who takes their work seriously.

If anything, that’s what really matters—not their age.

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