Women desire relationships 23 percent less than men. Why is this not surprising?
56 percent of women say it’s hard to find a partner who meets their expectations, while only 33 percent of men feel the same.
The thankless effort
I can only speak for myself, but I’ve stopped actively looking for a partner because I’m fed up with giving 100% emotional effort in a relationship and getting nothing in return.
Gen Z
I’m 27 years old, and guys my age are glued to their phones. They communicate better through short texts than face-to-face—it’s almost ridiculous! They’re used to dropping a relationship at the first sign of trouble and moving on to someone new, thanks to dating apps that make everything just a tap away. This mindset doesn’t help serious relationships.
Alpha males and their crowd
I got tired of seeing that at least half of men in their thirties are devoted listeners to some alpha male podcaster. It shows in how they treat women and relationships. These misogynistic Andrew Tate clones brainwash themselves daily about what men deserve and what they can demand from women, who are supposedly inferior and must submit to their will.
What gold?
During a chat with friends, the topic of gold diggers came up, and the guys complained about having to weed out opportunistic women. I had to ask, “Petikém, is this really a problem when you still live with your parents? Rolikám, you’re with a beat-up car at 20, do you really think you’ve attracted a true gold digger? And Gyurikám, you can barely pay your shabby rent—what gold could a woman possibly dig up from you?” None had an answer.
Who brings what
What finally disillusioned me about relationships was hearing men regularly complain about their wives who give their all. “I bring home the money, and she just sits at home!” When I pointed out that women shop, cook, clean, iron, raise the kids, and manage the whole family—work that’s not just 8 hours a day but 24/7—they just shrugged. Since I learned how much men underestimate the huge workload women carry, I no longer desire marriage.
Toxic feminism
Whenever feminism comes up, all the guys cringe as if you said a curse word. So I brought it up on every date as a kind of filter. I’d ask if they understood that feminism simply fights for equal rights for men and women. The answer was always that the movement "makes women crazy." So, according to them, it’s crazy for a woman to want the same rights as men. That’s so disappointing it completely killed my interest in dating.
The “normal” woman
Every man wants a so-called “normal woman”. What does that mean? She does all the household chores without complaint, like a traditional wife. She anticipates her husband’s every wish. Of course, she should have a job and her own income, not be a dependent housewife! But work shouldn’t be too important to her because men don’t like pushy, career-driven women. After work, shopping, and chores, she should always look pretty and enthusiastic—a devoted sex goddess in bed. She shouldn’t have her own opinions and should always turn to her man to tell her what to think. And after all that, she shouldn’t be nagging or demanding—she should expect nothing from him. This is the “normal” woman in men’s minds, and they complain about why they can’t find one. What can I say? It’s outrageous and truly baffling…
