The Question
Yes, more than once. I’m no longer in my twenties, so looks aren’t the first thing I notice anymore. After meeting someone, I ask myself: Would I want to see them again? It’s not about deciding if I want to spend the rest of my life with them, just if I want to meet again. If the answer is yes, then anything could grow from there.
The Husband
My ex-husband was a funny little guy: short and chubby. When I first met him, I was almost put off, but his way with words quickly won me over. We were married for three years, but the initial big love turned sour. He was frustrated that I was taller than him, and deep down, I felt like I was doing him a favor by being with him despite his looks. That toxic dynamic didn’t last long, but we’re still on good terms today.
The Back
I dated a cute girl with a broad back. I thought I’d get used to it, but it bothered me more and more. She was sweet and devoted, but didn’t understand why I was becoming less kind to her. When we broke up, I lied and said I hadn’t fully moved on from my previous relationship—I couldn’t admit that I was just fixated on her broad back.
The Skin
There was a quiet guy in the group with severe acne. Poor guy had no chance with girls because his face was covered in inflamed pimples. But I talked to him a few times and found him really likable. We got together, and I used every skincare product I had to help his skin. My efforts paid off—after eight months, his skin cleared up beautifully. The problem was, his confidence soared, and he started flirting behind my back. When I caught him cheating, he left me. That was the thanks I got.
Time
Yes, and I’d remind everyone that Time is a great equalizer. If you think you look better than your partner now, remember that 20-30 years from now, you’ll both age and those differences will fade. I’m 52, and honestly, my husband probably looks better than me these days—even though we used to be called Beauty and the Beast.
Her
My wife isn’t a conventional beauty. When I first saw her, my first thought was, wow, that’s a big nose. But when we started talking and I heard her laugh for the first time, a warm feeling washed over me. I thought I could listen to that sweet, bubbling laugh forever, so I spent the whole evening trying to make her laugh. We’ve been together 25 years, and to me, she’s the most beautiful woman in the world.
The Girl
My ex-fiancée wasn’t pretty—not at all. My friends said I was crazy for being with her. But I didn’t care about her looks because I saw her inner beauty. Every physical flaw was part of her unique charm, and I loved being with her. But when I put a ring on her finger, she changed completely.
She became aggressive and demanding; nothing I did was ever good enough. She pushed and rushed the wedding, but I was already full of doubts. In the end, my siblings and friends had to “rescue” me from her. Even now, neither I nor those around me understand how she had such a hold over me. Everyone says she treated me badly from the start, but I was in love and didn’t see it.
The Green-Eyed Monster
I gave the ugly guy a chance because I’m not superficial, but he wasn’t worth it: he became unbearably jealous and eventually didn’t even want me to see my friends or siblings. The last straw was when he left home one morning and locked me inside so I wouldn’t "wander off." That was when I left for good—and never dated an unattractive guy again.
The Clingy One
Yes, but I quickly lost interest in bed, and after two years we broke up. Still, I couldn’t shake her off. I had to involve the police because she stalked and harassed me.
Change
Before her, I only had super handsome guys, but she saw the world differently. She didn’t care about looks or what others thought—she lived for herself, and that blew me away. We have two kids, and I love her now just as much as when we first met, if not more.
