Honesty
I won’t talk about our problems with family or friends. When you vent to them after a fight, still angry, they end up thinking you’re crazy for not breaking up, while they dislike your partner because you lashed out in anger. Relationship issues belong behind closed doors.
Shared
I’ll never enter into shared finances or cohabitation again. That means no moving in together or marriage. I’m someone who lost a lot in divorce, so I won’t make that mistake again. I burned myself so badly that I’m not even willing to live with my current partner—everything must stay separate.
Words and Actions
I won’t believe sweet words anymore, as the singer Zorán said: “I believed in sweet words before. They were sincere and true, but time showed they were all lies.” The guy promised me the stars. It felt great to hear, and I foolishly thought he meant it—but there was nothing behind it. From now on, I’ll judge people by their actions, not their words.
ATM
I won’t pay for everything anymore, because so far every girl has taken advantage of me. With my third girlfriend, after initial gratitude, she became demanding with unrealistic expectations—I was supposed to cover her rent, utilities, car payments, and all expenses. You offer a finger, and they want the whole arm. Eventually, it’s never enough that I pay for every trip, dinner, event, and gifts. They expect me to cover manicures, hairdresser, lashes, beauty treatments, gym—everything. I don’t mind spoiling my partner, but I hate being used and taken for a fool.
The Repeat Offender
My problem is that I always forgive everyone and give endless chances. So far, no one has deserved it, so that ends now.
Metamorphosis
I won’t get involved with someone thinking I can change them, because people don’t change. I know it’s my fault—I’ve always seen potential and treated it like a personal project to steer them right, but every time it failed.
Begging
I will never, ever beg anyone not to leave me again. It’s pathetic and pointless—I need to love myself more. From now on, if someone wants to go, they should go.
Cheating
If someone cheats, they’re out immediately. I don’t care about tears, promises, or excuses. If I see them hiding their phone or taking it to the bathroom, that’s a red flag and I’m gone. I won’t snoop, but if they guard their phone suspiciously, I know they’re hiding something. Even flirting is a no-go—it’s the first step to cheating. If I don’t text other women ambiguously, my partner shouldn’t either. No one will talk their way out of this with me anymore.
Balance
I won’t give more than I get and I won’t agree just to avoid conflict.
Trust
The problem was that I trusted my partner completely. Even when several people warned me he was cheating and taking my money, I refused to believe it because I loved him so much. It turned out every accusation was true. I will never blindly trust anyone again.
