A husband cheating is a familiar story, but let’s explore what’s really behind it.
Everything’s fine
My marriage is great. Honestly, I have no complaints—my wife is attractive and kind, we have sex once a week, and we never argue. We’re happy, yet I still want to cheat. I recently saw a movie where the main character had a beautiful wife and a stunning lover, and I can’t get it out of my head. I love and desire my wife, but I feel like there’s "room" in my life for another woman emotionally and physically. Does that make me a bad person? Maybe, I don’t know…
The henhouse
I’m a 38-year-old tall, athletic man who’s always been popular with women. I didn’t want to marry young; I married my wife two years ago, whom I met at 34. I thought I had my fun and was ready for marriage, but recently something happened. My company hired five new female colleagues, and each one is more attractive than the last. Beautiful, intelligent, kind women aged 27-40, whom I jokingly call my “henhouse.”
Since they arrived, I happily go to work, butterflies in my stomach just thinking about seeing them that day. They’re very kind to me, and I notice how they look at me and sometimes giggle and whisper about me! I’m already trying to avoid them because I can’t control myself—they’re driving me crazy! I would never want to risk my marriage, but oh my… I’m only human, and I don’t know how long I can resist the temptation. I’ve even thought about secretly seeing a psychologist for help.
The mistake
Cheating was the biggest mistake of my life. The woman had been flirting with me for years, and I finally wavered during a weak moment. My wife and I had been struggling for months, arguing a lot, and that’s when I gave in. It was the worst sex of my life; she was terrible in bed. She did nothing but struggle and make awkward noises, and it lasted only five minutes. Needless to say, I got caught, and my wife left me because of it. Since then, I’ve been beating myself up.
The disgust
I had a client—a stunning woman—who made such clear advances that I couldn’t resist. She was successful and confident, and it wasn’t just her looks that drew me in, but her self-assurance. She knew what she wanted and was sure she’d get it. I’m not trying to excuse myself, but I don’t think there’s a man alive who could have resisted her. I couldn’t.
During a site visit, we got tangled up, and the sex was wild and passionate. I couldn’t think about anything else until evening—her body, her kiss, her scent. Then I went home, and my wife greeted me with a big smile and a hug because our little girl had a role in a play. In that moment, I snapped back to reality and felt so sick I almost threw up. My wife was worried—she thought I’d eaten something bad—but I was just disgusted with myself. That was seven years ago, and I still feel guilty. I’ve never told my wife—and I never will—but I appreciate her more than ever.
Who laughs last
I’ve been faithful my whole life. Even though I had plenty of chances to cheat with women I still can’t get out of my head. But I always weighed things and decided that no thrilling affair is worth risking my marriage. The biggest "cheating" I’ve done is sometimes watching porn, that’s it.
But two months ago, my wife told me we needed to talk. It turned out she fell in love with a colleague, and they decided to leave their marriages to try being together. Since then, all I can think about is how much of an idiot I am, and I tell all my friends not to miss any opportunity because they might end up like me.
