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You’re Not Over Your Ex If These Signs Sound Like You

Elizabeth Carter3 min read
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You’re Ready to Reconcile in Your Weak Moments

You’re Ready to Reconcile in Your Weak Moments
When something bad happens in your life, do you feel desperate and like he’s the only one you can turn to for help? Maybe you have a few drinks with your girlfriends and suddenly find yourself texting him? That message might never be sent, or maybe you don’t end up pouring your heart out to him—but these moments show your ex means more to you than he should.

You Compare Him to Your Current Partner

You Compare Him to Your Current Partner
Comparing is never helpful—especially if you’re not over your ex. How can you tell? For example, if you find yourself thinking your ex had qualities that made you love him more than your current partner. Maybe you admired how focused he was on his career or thought he was more attentive than your current boyfriend… This is a red flag on multiple levels: first, it clearly shows your ex still occupies your thoughts. Second, this comparison is like a mental competition, weighing whether you should get back together with your ex even though you have a new partner. So, you might not even admit it to yourself, but your past relationship still has a hold on you.

He Sparks Strong Emotions in You

He Sparks Strong Emotions in You
The tough truth is, if you’re truly over your ex, he won’t stir up any intense feelings—good or bad. If you get butterflies or your skin crawls when you see him, it means he’s still part of your daily life. We’re not saying you love him; maybe you even dislike him. But strong emotions show you haven’t fully moved past old wounds. And if your heart still skips a beat when you get a message from him or run into him on the street, that’s a pretty clear sign.

He Has a New Relationship

He Has a New Relationship
These feelings might focus not just on your ex but also on his new partner. That doesn’t change the fact you haven’t fully moved on. If it bothers you that he has a new girlfriend, if you feel jealous or wonder how their days go together, that’s a warning sign. A little healthy curiosity is normal—wondering who the new girlfriend is doesn’t mean you’re still attached to your ex. But if you feel jealous without even knowing her, or if it stirs anger in you, that’s a sign you haven’t completely closed that chapter. Quite the opposite!

You Constantly Check His Social Media

You Constantly Check His Social Media
Curiosity is natural, and we’re not saying you should never peek at your ex’s social profiles. But if your first move is to check what he’s posted or if you check multiple times a day for updates, that’s not a great sign. It shows you care way more than you’d like about what’s going on with him—even if you make excuses to yourself about why you “need” to check what he shares regularly. The truth is, if you were truly over him, you’d find whatever he posts—whether it’s rude comments about you or low blows—more pitiful than upsetting.
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