Flirting has taken a bit of a backseat lately—at least when it comes to face-to-face interactions. But many still effortlessly flirt from the comfort of their own homes, because meeting people online, even through text, is totally doable. In fact, it’s thriving! So, how good are you at flirting? Do you send clear signals, or does it only become clear afterward what feelings you wanted to share with your crush?
You’re currently single and planning a fun night out with your girlfriends at a cozy spot. Feeling ready for a relationship—what do you wear?
A: A sexy, figure-hugging dress with heels, preferably with a noticeable neckline or a shorter cut.
B: Something that shows off my shape but isn’t too low-cut or short.
C: One of my nicer pants paired with a pretty blouse and wedge sandals.
You’re walking home alone from work when a group of men start openly staring and whistling at you—how do you react?
A: I smile big and wave at them—then take a good look at the lineup.
B: It feels nice to be found attractive, but I just acknowledge it with a smile.
C: I lower my eyes and hurry away—I’d love to disappear right then and there.
How do you start a conversation when it’s up to you to make the first move?
A: I drop a compliment—that always works.
B: I try to bring up something funny and casual to break the ice.
C: I stick strictly to the topic at hand to avoid misunderstandings.
How long do you wait before approaching someone you like?
A: If I know I’ll see them again, I can wait a bit, but if it’s a one-time thing, I don’t hesitate.
B: At least a few weeks, sometimes a few months—I need to be sure they like me back.
C: I think years could pass and I still wouldn’t make a move.
Someone you find attractive clearly starts flirting with you. How do you respond?
A: No question—I catch on immediately.
B: I smile back and hold their gaze, but the next move is up to them.
C: I usually react shyly, maybe just with a casual smile.
Do your flirting moves usually work? Does your crush notice when you try to catch their attention?
A: Yes, I always make sure the one I’m interested in notices me.
B: They usually notice me too, but I have no idea how I actually sparked their interest.
C: It usually doesn’t work, but I don’t push flirting too hard.
Assessment:
Count how many A, B, and C answers you gave. The category with the most answers describes your flirting style.
A: Sometimes You’re a Bit Too Obvious
There’s no doubt you know all the ins and outs of flirting. You’re fully aware of how to catch attention—through your look and your behavior alike. Flirting is a natural part of your daily life, and getting regular feedback from those around you is super important. You easily get it whether you’re on the street, at work, or on the dance floor. But sometimes you might overdo it, and your openness can be mistaken for being too forward—even if that’s not really the case. Playing with open cards all the time might lead some men to misunderstand you or not appreciate you as they should.
B: You’ve Mastered the Balance
You walk the line perfectly between extremes—you’ve really honed your social skills. You don’t go overboard, so the men around you don’t feel like you’re easily available. Yet, you’re open and playful enough to be especially intriguing and worth pursuing. You see flirting as a fun, innocent game without always having a specific goal, so you don’t completely shut it down even if you’re in a relationship. But when you are, you set clear boundaries and make it obvious if your kindness and openness don’t come with serious intentions.
C: You’re Not the Initiator at All
Whether it’s due to low confidence or because you believe men should always make the first move, you’re not the one to initiate flirting. That’s totally fine—playing your cards close to the chest keeps the excitement alive. But too much secrecy and a lack of flirting might give the impression you’re not interested at all. Remember, giving some signs now and then doesn’t take away the magic of getting to know someone. And it’s important to know that you won’t come off as forward or easy just because you start making eye contact or showing interest in someone you like. Be brave!
