Joy
“Great, I already have someone else! Remember that blonde girl from Ádám’s party? Turns out she’s a bartender at a downtown bar, and the guys and I went there because they said I’m good with girls. I asked her out and guess what, she said yes! Should I take her to the same place I took you the first time, or somewhere fancier?”
That was the response when I hadn’t slept a wink the night before—crying through the night, mourning our love after deciding to break up.
Understanding
I didn’t want to break up because I loved him, but so many tough things were happening—my mom’s death, school and work struggles, money problems, illness—and I just didn’t want to drag him down. When I tearfully told him he’d be better off without me, he replied: “Because I cheated, right? Who told you that?!” I had no idea what he was talking about.
Cold Shower
After dragging the breakup out for months because I didn’t want to hurt her, I finally blurted out during a nasty fight that I hadn’t loved her for a long time. Her answer: “I’m pregnant.” Later I found out she lied just to make me suffer a bit. (Mission accomplished.)
Understanding
“I get it. Hey, does that black-haired, busty friend of yours (what’s her name… Orsi?) have a boyfriend?” When I snapped out of the shock and called him all sorts of names, he honestly asked what was wrong with me since I was the one who broke up and he was just checking in…
Threat
“If you leave me, I’ll kill myself.” Sadly, this reaction is more common than you’d think. When the girl said this to me, I hung up, called the police, gave them her address, and explained she was suicidal because I broke up with her. The next day she called me frantically, upset that the police came and tried to take her to a psychiatric hospital. I told her not to throw around such statements lightly. I hope she learned something.
Denial
“Oh no, sweetheart, we love each other!” When I kept insisting it was really over, she said, “No. I don’t accept it.” I didn’t argue further, but the next day I moved out while she was at work and blocked her everywhere. I hope she’s come to terms with it by now.
Relieved Sigh
The girl—visibly relieved—just said: “Thank you.” Even though I was the one who ended it, this hurt more than any breakup where I was the one dumped.
What now?
We’d been together for four months and things were going well, but since I got accepted to a university across the country, I thought it wasn’t worth falling deeper because a long-distance relationship wouldn’t work. When I told him this, he looked surprised and said: “I thought we were just friends…”
Gratitude
“Thank God, finally…” That was his reaction. I was angry because I found out he’d been seeing another girl for weeks and wanted to get rid of me but didn’t have the guts to break up face-to-face. I felt he’d become careless, but I thought it was just his busy work life and stayed patient as a good girlfriend. I hate when a guy makes me do the dirty work!
Deep Feelings
He was a really sweet guy, but we wanted very different things in life, so I finally decided to break up. I was scared I’d break down emotionally and was really nervous, but his reaction was bitterly sobering. “But we’ll still hook up, right?” he asked with a poker face while calmly rolling his cigarette. I was speechless—I truly thought this guy loved me.
