If you don’t have a husband yet, here are some priceless tips from women who are already married.
Important
Know the difference between a nice guy and mama’s favorite. I didn’t realize it in time, but the difference is huge.
Money Matters
Don’t marry a rich man, marry a generous one. A poor but generous husband is worth way more than someone wealthy but stingy.
Sweet Treats
Don’t marry someone who shares your favorite dessert. You’ll save yourself tons of arguments if you pick a partner who won’t eat your snacks. (And you won’t eat theirs.)
Are You Sure...?
Before you say “I do,” learn from my mistake and make sure your partner truly wants a wife, not another mom.
Kids
Have a long, honest conversation about kids. If he’s hesitant or vague, don’t expect marriage to magically change his mind. Remember, this man won’t just be your husband but the father of your children. He should want to be a DAD, not just want kids.
Grief
Marry someone who will let you grieve your parents in peace. If imagining this makes you doubt whether he’ll support you through loss, he’s not the one.
First
Don’t marry anyone you haven’t moved furniture with. The ultimate test is whether you can carry a dresser upstairs without fighting. (At least one flight of stairs, please.) Trust me, this situation brings out the worst in everyone. Try it and thank me later. You’re welcome!
What Sticks, Stays
If you’ve ever done housework for him – even during the dating phase – it’s yours forever. Seriously, he’ll never do it again. If that’s okay with you, go for it.
Sickness
Don’t say yes until you’ve been sick together. How he cares for you when you’re down says a lot.
Illusion
He is who he is—and that won’t change. He won’t get better, only worse. No, you can’t change him; he’s not a project. Check if you’re in love with him as he is or just the ideal you imagine. Marry the person he is now, not the potential you see. Because honestly, that potential probably won’t happen.
Family
Before joining the family, make sure you can handle their crew for decades.
Adventure
Don’t make your honeymoon your first flight together. You’d be surprised how much you learn about someone at the airport or in a foreign country...
Levels
Marry someone who is first your best friend and only then your lover.
Warning Signs
Notice a few things you don’t like? You might think, who cares—no one’s perfect! That’s true, but beware: those seemingly small things you notice early on and tolerate will be the reasons you leave later. Does he toss his shirt next to the laundry basket instead of in it? You might overlook it for years, then erupt like a volcano, but he still won’t put it away. Not sexy when he yawns with his mouth full while scratching his belly? You’ll ignore it until you actually feel disgusted. Likes to explain things a bit know-it-all style? After a few years, you’ll be yelling at him to stop because his nonsense drives you crazy. So be careful—every little flaw in your life partner will get amplified.
A Little More
Choose a husband who loves you more than you love him. I’m not saying don’t love him at all—love each other. But make sure your partner cares a little more about you than you do about him.
