Dating after thirty feels like playing a tough game on an already challenging field.
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My girlfriends and I have been searching for partners for years—so far without success—and we’ve noticed most men today fit into these categories: mom’s favorite, not looking for a partner but a second mom to serve him and occasionally have sex with him. Simple-minded alpha male, who cares about no one but himself. Divorced dad, who after many years of marriage just wants to sleep with as many women as possible from his dates. Toxic "nice guy", who is just like the others but pretends to be kind. Unattractive loser, completely incapable. Where are the decent men? I guess they’re all taken, because dating sites are full of these archetypes.
Woof Woof
I gave up on dating and adopted a dog instead to enjoy being alone. Honestly, it’s been the best decision of my life—way better company than any man I’ve dealt with.
Holding On
I don’t know why I attract these types, but with every guy I met, I ended up supporting him financially. I’d be happy just to have a guy who can pay his own bills. Is it too much to ask that he has a job?
Nothing
As a woman over 50, I’d say there’s nothing wrong with today’s men. Men have always been like this—in fact, 30 years ago, they were even worse. I know from my mother how society was completely insensitive to terrible things in her time, and even more so in my grandmother’s. For example, my mother was touched inappropriately by her lead instructor without consequences, and my grandmother was married off at 16 to a 34-year-old widower because he "owned a lot of land." Women’s lives are still tough today, but they’re much better than a few decades ago.
Disillusioned
At 36, I reached a point where I hated men so much I wished I were a lesbian—it would be so much easier. (Unfortunately, I’m not.)
Self-Sufficiency
I’ve been with three men who couldn’t take care of themselves. They couldn’t even make scrambled eggs or start the washing machine. Either mom or their current girlfriend took care of them, and they saw nothing wrong with that. When I asked my last ex why he thought it was normal that I worked just like him but also did the shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, and ironing, he looked at me wide-eyed and muttered, "But that’s all women’s work..." Where do these guys live? Stuck in the Middle Ages?!
Movies
I think easy access to porn is why men are like this. A few decades ago, even getting a magazine with nudity was tough; now they can watch extreme porn all day on their phones. Why bother putting in effort and behaving decently with a real woman when all their dirty fantasies appear with a single tap?
Unfaithful
Every guy I’ve been with cheated on me. My friends’ boyfriends all cheated or at least got caught—either on Tinder or chatting with other girls. They can keep multiple options with zero effort, which is why they’re so insensitive and careless. How can I trust anyone after that?
Addiction
Have you noticed every guy is addicted to something? Weed, porn, video games, etc. I thought my ex was clean, but it turned out he was a recovering gambling addict.
Zen
I don’t know what’s wrong with men today, but honestly, I don’t care anymore. From 21 to 29, I was with a decent guy, but love faded and we went our separate ways. I spent five years trying to find someone new, but only had bad, short-lived relationships. Last year, I finally accepted being single. Since then, my mental health has improved a thousandfold—I’m balanced, calm, and so much happier.
