Abuse isn’t something only women experience.
Get Well Soon!
I ended up in the hospital with an allergic reaction, and my girlfriend openly flirted with the doctor right in front of me. When we were alone, she asked if I noticed how into him the doc was. I groaned that I didn’t want to see that, and she snapped, saying she was just being nice to him so I’d get better care. The next day she called, and before asking how I was, she told me one of her handsome coworkers had asked her out. When I said I didn’t need that—especially not now—she got upset, claiming she just wanted to cheer me up so I’d heal faster.
Silent Treatment
She didn’t speak to me for three days because I went to the hospital when my dad had a stroke, missing our planned movie night (which was supposed to be the twentieth time watching her favorite rom-com). Even two years later, she brought it up as "the night I promised her Notting Hill but let her down." Don’t ask me why I stayed with her for years—I honestly don’t know.
Proving a Point
She sent me shopping with a list a kilometer long, then when I arrived with bags full of groceries, she told me she couldn’t wait and ordered everything online. She said she wanted to prove she “didn’t need me.” She also played games where she’d drag me into a clothing store, fill the cart, then at checkout say she forgot her card at home. When I called her out on it multiple times, she yelled at me in front of everyone in the store, calling me pathetic and a worthless man in front of thirty women.
The Late Arrival
I got home ten minutes late because my boss asked me to drive him to the subway. When I walked in, she was sitting on the couch with arms crossed, demanding to know where I’d been. She said I was lying and treating her like a fool, then started throwing a tantrum. She knocked everything off the set table, spilled and scattered all the food, then smoked in the armchair while I cleaned up. I had to grovel and apologize for two weeks to make up for my “crime.”
Mother-in-Law
After every fight, she called my mom to tell her what a terrible person I was. When my mom stopped answering, she sent long messages instead. She even told me to remove a small birthmark on my back because it disgusted her. When I tried to break up, she got a positive pregnancy test and kept me on edge for months, claiming she was pregnant.
Grief
She said a real man doesn’t cry—when she caught me tearing up after my dad’s funeral—and for months, whenever we argued, she said I was taking out my grief over my dad’s death on her.
Emotional Blackmail
She cheated, got caught, cried, and when I said it was over and I was leaving, suddenly the sobbing, remorseful woman disappeared. She looked me in the eye calmly and said if I left, she’d accuse me of rape. I was speechless—what a shocking moment.
Sex
When she wanted sex, it was mandatory—no matter if I was tired, sick, or busy. When I tried, it never happened. Ever. Only when she wanted it, and then it was an obligation. Once, she tried to initiate sex right before I was heading to my brother’s prom—and I was already late—but I shook her off. When I got home, my model collection was in ruins. She’d smashed every piece.
The Side Story
She was an emotional wreck when we got together—she’d just broken up with her ex. For eight months, I pampered her, praised her, spoiled her, and tried to rebuild her confidence. Then one day I came home to find she was gone. She left a two-line message saying she got back with her ex but thanked me for “keeping her entertained.”
Burnt Out
My ex’s life was pure drama—I swear, she thrived on fighting. I always tried to please her to avoid trouble, but it wasn’t easy. When she ran out of things to pick fights about, she’d purposely burn dinner and expect me to praise her cooking anyway. Like a good dog, I always did—and I could see on her face she enjoyed watching me swallow those bitter, charred bites.
