Is it a blessing or a challenge to be attracted to both genders?
Interesting
As a man, I’d say first dates with guys are much easier and more enjoyable. But among gay men, it’s tough to find someone genuinely looking for a serious relationship. Dating women is harder at first—they act like I’m trying to tame a stray cat. It takes a lot of patience, and sometimes it doesn’t work out, but at least we share the same goal: a committed relationship. Gay men often struggle to commit to just one person.
Clear
As a woman, I can clearly say that it’s much easier with women. They’re more loyal, communicate better, and we share a lot in common. We can talk about everything because we’re not afraid to open up. Most women are much tidier and cleaner than men. When my partner is a woman, I don’t worry about coming home to a mess or having to remind her to wash her hair.
Surprising
It’s easier to find a calm, balanced guy than a woman like that. Few realize that abuse exists in same-sex relationships too, and lesbian relationships surprisingly have a high rate of domestic violence. I think it’s because society tends to dismiss female aggression. So, as a bisexual man, I believe I’m more likely to find a gentle man than a mild woman.
My Other Half
My wife is bisexual, and she says if something happened to me and she had to date again, she’d probably start with women, but for a serious, long-term relationship, she’d choose a man again. She says women can be dramatic and moody. I pointed out it’s funny hearing that from her since she’s also dramatic and moody, and she replied that’s exactly why she picks a man for a long relationship.
Emotionally Detached
As a man, I feel many gay men are aromantic, meaning they don’t feel emotional closeness or romantic attraction. On Grindr, you find guys who just want sex, maybe some partying or drugs, but nothing deeper. We all need a partner, and it’s easier to build a deeper connection with women.
Frequency
As a woman, it’s exhausting when men always want sex, but my female partners and I always had similar sexual appetites.
The Princess
I’m a man, and men treat me better. Women have much higher expectations—they seem to think I’m the prince who must fulfill their princess dreams. They expect me to plan every date, pay for everything, and carry them on my palm even when they don’t do anything for me. With men, everything is split evenly, and I feel we’re equal partners in the relationship.
One Thing…
I’m a man, and I have to say men are way better at one thing: oral sex. Of course, you can’t blame women for that—they don’t have a penis, so they don’t know what it feels like. I have a lesbian friend who shares the same experience about women.
Hmm…
Heterosexual women aren’t very open to dating a bisexual guy, even though I’m more attracted to women than men. I understand why they don’t see a man attracted to men as masculine enough—especially one who’s been with men.
To the Point
Men are straightforward—they say what they want. With women, you have to be a mind reader and ride their mood swings like a surfer. Life with women is more exhausting but also more devoted, so you get what you give…
