We could write a book about women’s sexual insecurities, but men aren’t always confident when it’s time for action either.
The Tremble
I'm athletic, but I’m not happy with my chest. I have gynecomastia, which means my breast tissue is enlarged. No matter how much I work out, I have breasts that tremble during sex. I don’t even need to explain how much this hits my confidence. I only feel somewhat comfortable in bed if it’s completely dark and my partner doesn’t touch my chest. Every first time is a nightmare—once a woman was so thrown off by my chest that she started asking questions about it.
Size Worries
Like every man with a size under 6 inches (16 cm), I constantly worry about "not being enough." Since I got married, I finally feel at ease knowing I don’t have to stress about it anymore.
Expectations
There was a woman who told me outright she was breaking up with me because I couldn’t stay rock hard for at least an hour and a half, and that’s what she needed to reach climax. As a last resort, she suggested I try Viagra, but I told her I’d only consider that when I’m around sixty. That breakup crushed my confidence so much that I didn’t date for a whole year afterward.
Acrobatics
Surprisingly many women watch porn, and sometimes they’ve asked me for positions I just couldn’t manage. That’s always a big letdown. It’s not about my enthusiasm, but simply that I’m not as well-endowed as male porn stars…
Stripes
As a teen, I grew and gained weight suddenly. By twenty, I was thin, then I bulked up, and these changes left marks on my skin. The thing is, I'm covered in stretch marks everywhere. It even makes my stomach cringe when people call them "pregnancy stripes." I’m so ashamed that I don’t go to the beach, so you can imagine how it feels to undress in front of a woman for the first time… I usually warn them, but they’re always surprised that my whole body is striped.
Hoping for the Best
At 43, I avoid younger women (under 40) because they expect multiple rounds, which isn’t a given for a man my age. My friends and I joke, "What second round?" We’re just happy if the first one happens! Of course, a second round is welcome—just maybe tomorrow…
Too Big
Unlike most, my problem is that I’m too big, and I have to be very careful not to hurt my partner. Once, I undressed and the woman looked at my size and said, "Uh… this isn’t going to work, sorry." Then she got dressed and left, and I was left alone, heartbroken.
Fear
When you’re young, you’re always rock hard and never imagine a time when it won’t be that way. But after forty, things get more complicated, and the hardest truth is that it only gets tougher. I was 38 when, for the first time, a woman decided to spend the night after a date and… I failed. I apologized, saying it had never happened before, and she kindly reassured me it was okay and it happens to everyone. She was understanding, but inside, my world collapsed. Since then, I carry a constant fear of not being ready next time, and this mental block makes things even harder in bed.
Body Hair
I’m hairy, and not just a little, but seriously. My back, shoulders, waist, and butt are all covered, and I’ve dealt with—more than once—women who were put off by it. I shave my chest and stomach with a machine, but I can’t reach my back, so if I don’t have a girlfriend, I ask my mom to help. Every new relationship is a milestone in how the woman reacts to my caveman look.
Interruptions
It’s really hard to explain to a perfect 10 woman that sometimes I’m only "semi-hard" during sex, and it’s not because of her, but just how it is… When they ask, "Is something wrong?" it only makes things worse because then I immediately go completely soft.
