What is it that men just won’t openly admit?
Anxiety
There’s a stress trigger women have no clue about: urinal anxiety. My stomach knots up as soon as I head to the men’s room because when another guy stands next to me at a public urinal, I just can’t pee. I hold my equipment, imagine flowing streams, but nothing happens. I hope the other guy isn’t paying attention and either wait for him to finish and leave or awkwardly walk away without peeing.
Inner beauty
I'm nicer to beautiful women, I can’t help it. As a clerk, I go the extra mile for attractive girls, but I don’t bother as much with older or less conventionally pretty ladies. I judge myself for this, but it’s just how I’m wired. (I think most men are the same.)
Two feelings, no more
Since I have no one to talk to about my problems, I’ve been bottling up my emotions for so long that now I only have two feelings: numbness or anger. That’s it, nothing else.
Capability
I’ll sleep with a woman even if I don’t find her attractive. I’ve brought home plenty of women from clubs I’m not proud of, but a hookup is a hookup. I know this might be hard for women to understand, but that’s how we operate.
In a relationship
There’s no such thing as a lone wolf man—that’s a myth. Deep down, every man longs for a relationship. For a woman who understands him, who he can protect, and cuddle up to. A single man isn’t a lone wolf but a stray dog waiting for a gentle female touch. Of course, we’d never admit this to anyone.
Meow
We love cats—all my friends do—but we can’t show it openly because it might question our masculinity. Yet, the best feeling is when my girlfriend’s cat curls up to me, purring. It makes me feel special, but I’d never tell anyone.
Guilty fantasy
If you introduce us to a pretty girlfriend, sister, or colleague, we’ll put on an Oscar-worthy act pretending not to look, but secretly we’ve checked out her chest and butt, and later that night we’ll wonder what sex with her might be like. Don’t worry, it doesn’t make us love you any less; it’s just how our primitive caveman brain is wired.
Dark thoughts
We think about suicide far more than women do. I believe most men think about it daily. I once talked about this with friends and everyone nodded, as if it were the most natural thing in the world.
Happiness
No matter how competitive our lives are, we’d all be happiest in a small cabin, spending the day fishing, tinkering, chopping wood, and watching the fire in the fireplace at night. Every man craves this simple, down-to-earth life.
The threat
When we tease women with “you’ll be left alone with your cats,” we’re really projecting our own fear of loneliness. We know you’re fine alone with your cats, but we don’t handle loneliness well. The loneliest, aimless man is society’s biggest risk—and that’s no coincidence; loneliness can destroy us.
