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"I Support Her, But I Won't Let Her Be a Parasite" – Guys, What’s One Thing You’d Never Do for a Woman?

Szőke Angéla3 min read
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"I Support Her, But I Won't Let Her Be a Parasite" – Guys, What’s One Thing You’d Never Do for a Woman? — Relationship
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Let’s see where men draw the line.

The Kids

My girlfriend has two kids. I never wanted children—especially not someone else’s—but I’m in love, so I accepted it. I buy her everything. We dine at the best restaurants, travel in style, and when we shop, I get her all the clothes, jewelry, and bags she wants. But I refuse to spend money on her kids. Once she suggested bringing them on vacation, but I told her I want to be with her, not her kids, and I’m not paying for their trip. She was a bit upset but accepted it.

Password

Speaking from experience, I will never share my passwords with anyone again. Not for my phone, not for my laptop.

Honesty

I never fully open up. Women often ask men to pour out their hearts, and I’ve done it a few times—but I regretted it every time because those moments were later used against me during arguments. So ladies, I’m sorry, but from now on, I’m keeping my traumas to myself.

Man in a suit

Money

I don’t lend money or sign anything. I’ve been burned a few times, so I won’t lend a single cent to a woman. A friend of mine got trapped by his girlfriend who convinced him to co-sign a loan, then disappeared like a ghost. He’s been paying off her debt for years…

Emotional Crutches

I won’t let a woman cry on my shoulder after a breakup just to seduce me, and then toss me aside like a cigarette butt once she’s regained her confidence. I’ve played that role twice—helping a broken woman heal emotionally—and both times I was dumped as soon as she felt better. So thanks, but I’m done being the hero rescuer.

The Ex

It’s unacceptable to me if she’s still "friends with her ex." No matter what she says, this is non-negotiable. I’ve seen firsthand the real role that ex played, even when they claimed to be "just friends" with "nothing going on."

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Not a Parasite

My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. She lives with me but doesn’t contribute to utilities. I pay for our trips—we travel a lot. We both cook, and sometimes we order in or go out, and I cover those costs too. So I finance her housing, food, and travel, but nothing else. I only buy her expensive clothes for birthdays and Christmas; otherwise, she buys her own. I don’t pay for her nails, hairdresser, beauty treatments, or lashes. I support her, but I won’t let her live off me.

Cutting Ties

I won’t cut ties with a childhood best friend just because she doesn’t like the guy. Sorry, my friend has been part of my life way longer, so he stays.

Forgiveness

I won’t take her back if I find out she cheated. I used to believe the tears and promises, only to be fooled again. Now I know: once a cheater, always a cheater.

Physical Boundaries

I won’t allow her to lay a hand on me. I would never do that to her, and I expect the same respect. I know couples where the woman hits the man during arguments, but for me, that’s unacceptable.

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