However, this 20% theory is not the invention of the film's creators – it actually originates from the darker corners of the internet, from so-called incel (involuntary celibate) communities.
What is an incel, and what do these communities preach?
The incel movement is an online community of men who feel that women "do not notice them." As a result, they often harbor anger, bitterness, and even hatred towards the opposite sex. The narrative spreading in their communities claims that women only choose the highest-status, most attractive men, condemning most men to eternal "romantic invisibility." However, this theory represents an oversimplified and dangerously distorted perspective.
Women owe men nothing
One of the biggest problems with the incel narrative is that it is fundamentally based on false assumptions. For example, that women "owe" men attention, love, or sex. This is simply not true. The foundation of any human relationship is always mutual respect, attraction, and interest – not that someone "deserves" something just for existing.
It is also not certain that only 20% of men appear attractive to women. These figures often rely on surveys and superficial impressions rather than deep human connections. The world of online dating, for example, distorts reality: it is difficult to form a true picture of someone based on a profile picture and a few lines.
It's not the appearance that matters, but the attitude
What is certain, however, is that women's expectations are not based solely on appearances. What makes a man attractive to a woman is a much more complex question. Experience shows that most women look for a partner who is responsible, empathetic, stable, and respectful – in other words, behaves like an adult. Men who complain that "women don't want them" often avoid developing these qualities.
If a man feels he cannot find a partner, it does not mean that women "expect too much." Instead, it may be time for some self-reflection.
Becoming more attractive is not about building muscles or becoming rich – it is much more about whether someone can behave emotionally maturely, communicate openly, and cooperate in a relationship.
Blaming is not a solution – in fact, this is exactly what is repulsive
When some men blame women for their own failures, it is precisely proof that they are not ready for a relationship. Those who think they "deserve" female attention and view a partner as a right are actually not looking for a partner but a service. This attitude is by no means attractive – in fact, it is clearly repulsive.
Women did not set the bar too high – they just finally expect to be treated like adults
The reality is that most women do not enter relationships with unrealistic demands – although it is true that some do. However, the incel culture clearly does not talk about these exceptions but acts as if every woman is "arrogant" because she has expectations about what her future partner should bring to the relationship. Yet women ready for a healthy relationship only expect what they themselves give: attention, security, mature communication, and respect. If this seems too much, then perhaps it is not the women's expectations that are too high – but the men who are too low.
And if we are not willing to settle for this, well, then maybe it really shouldn't be our fault...
