Compatibility Test with 2 Simple Conditions
Experts say chemistry isn’t everything in a relationship. But when it’s missing or uneven between partners, it’s tough to overcome. And this isn’t just about sexual attraction—it’s also about how you feel when you’re with your partner.
To find out how well you fit together, try a little transactional analysis. This psychological approach, developed in 1960 and evolving ever since, is based on two ideas: 1.) we communicate from three "ego states," and 2.) these states connect with each other.
The Three-Level Connection
The three ego states are:
• Parent ego: what you were taught.
• Child ego: what you felt.
• Adult ego: what you’ve learned.
If two people are truly compatible, they connect on all three levels. How do you check if your teachings, feelings, and learnings match your partner’s? Ask yourself:
• Parent: How similar are your values and views on life’s big questions?
• Child: Do you have fun together? Can you be spontaneous? Do you find your partner attractive? Do you enjoy traveling together?
• Adult: Do you both see each other as smart? Are you good at solving problems together?
When Your Answers Don’t Match…
The more questions you ask yourself and your partner, the clearer it becomes how well you fit. While the best case is matching answers in all ego states, some couples complement each other instead.
Maybe you’re the calm one, and your partner the adventurous type. Experts say that’s fine—until one of you gets tired of it. So, keep an eye on that balance. According to The Daily Mail, based on these questions, compatible couples share these 5 key qualities.
Ingredients of a Healthy Relationship
1. Commitment: Both of you are fully dedicated to each other and your relationship. This falls under the Parent ego state and means you both see your bond as equally strong.
2. Attention: In a compatible couple, the relationship itself and caring for each other always matter. This is the Adult ego state, showing how much you prioritize each other’s happiness and what you’ve learned from past relationships.
3. Freshness and Youthful Attitude: You can’t stop aging, but you can keep your relationship feeling young. The Child ego state highlights the importance of spontaneity and openness to new experiences.
4. Sense of Humor: Laughing together not only brings you closer but also helps ease tension and frustration.
5. Daily Intimacy: You don’t need to be intimate every day, but small gestures and touches matter for connection. This belongs to both the Adult and Child ego states, as it’s something you feel and have learned from past relationships.
If your relationship has these five qualities and your answers align, there’s no reason to doubt—you’re a perfect match with a bond few achieve!
