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"My husband didn’t want to work, I supported the family" – 5 money issues that led to divorce

Margaret Hayes2 min read
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No money, no love

No money, no love
“My husband and I even saw a couples therapist to try and save our marriage. We were constantly fighting. When the therapist asked what we argued about most, we both answered at once: money. We were both laid off at the same time and had to take minimum wage jobs temporarily. Paying bills was a struggle, and it slowly wore us down. We couldn’t fix our marriage because money fights never stopped.” – Tracey, 31.

Everything was about money

Everything was about money
“I can’t remember a single conversation that wasn’t about money. Whether we went out or sat down to eat, it was always about how much things cost and what we couldn’t afford in the future. We lived like walking budgets, and it drained all the joy from our relationship. In the end, I decided to leave the marriage because there was no love or passion left—only financial pressure.” – Casey, 34.

I drove us into debt

I drove us into debt
“I racked up our credit card debt sky-high. I secretly had a shopping addiction and got caught when debt collectors started calling our home. My husband never checked the credit card bills, so he had no idea what I’d gotten us into. When he saw the huge debt, he immediately filed for divorce.” – Marissa, 42.

I earned more than him

I earned more than him
“When I first got married, I worked part-time in a clothing store while my husband was CEO of a tech startup, so he handled our finances. I worked hard on my career and within two years was earning twice as much as him with my own business. He wasn’t happy about it. He wanted to be the man who brought home the money. I didn’t care at all. We constantly argued about the fact that I earned more. Eventually, I just got tired of it.” – Michelle, 38.

He had no job

He had no job
“My husband was fired and didn’t look for work for a whole year. We were completely dependent on my paycheck, which wasn’t enough for two. I urged him to find a job, but he wasn’t motivated at all. After two years of unemployment, I just walked away.” – Heidi, 29.
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