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"We've Already Paid for the Wedding" – What Holds Us Back from Breaking Up? 10 Thought-Provoking Stories

Szőke Angéla4 min read
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The Promise

I'd been planning to break up for months, but one evening my girlfriend said that for my birthday, she wants us to bring in one of her friends as a third. My birthday is six months away. It'll be tough, but I can hold on until then because I really want to wait for this gift.

The Fetish

I'm a foot fetishist, and even though our relationship is a disaster and we have nothing in common, I can't leave because I've never seen toes as beautiful as hers.

Too Late

We've already paid for the wedding and sent out the invitations.

Sexual Orientation

We constantly fight and bring out the worst in each other. I think this is what they call a textbook toxic relationship. Neither of us is happy, and I don’t know why she’s still with me. But I do know I can’t let go because my girlfriend is bisexual. That means we regularly—at least once or twice a month—have threesomes with some stranger she picks up. She has great taste in women, and these experiences currently weigh more than our issues. I know it sounds shallow and pathetic, but I just can’t make a change.

What holds us back from breaking up?

Physical Traits

My boyfriend is a selfish blockhead with no goals in life and probably never will get anywhere. I can’t see him as a partner or a future with him because he’d be a bad dad. But the sex is amazing—way better than anyone I’ve been with before. He has physical traits I just can’t say goodbye to.

Comfort

My boyfriend lives in a big house with a beautiful garden, close to my workplace. I live with him, and he doesn’t accept a cent from me. His mom is a sweetheart who loves me and often cooks for us. So I get to spend my entire paycheck on myself, buying whatever I want. My quality of life has improved a lot since we got together because he also pays for trips. He’s kind and pleasant but boring and unexciting, and the sex is forgettable. I know I don’t want this long-term, but life is so comfortable and enjoyable with him that I don’t have the strength to leave this comfort zone.

The Trip

I’ve already booked an expensive trip to the Maldives, and I don’t want to go alone.

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The Animals

My boyfriend is annoying, and my love for him is long gone, but his pets are so sweet I can’t break up. He has two dogs, two cats, a ferret, three guinea pigs, and a horse. I adore all his pets, and they love me too. I learned to ride on his horse, and there’s a special bond between me and the animal. I can’t imagine not seeing them anymore, so breaking up isn’t an option right now.

The Body

I’ve had girlfriends with great breasts and others with great butts, but never one with both perfect. Our relationship has flattened out, but until I find another woman like her, she’s staying.

Threats

Every time I decide to leave, my boyfriend immediately threatens suicide. I didn’t believe him until he once literally cut himself in front of me. I got really scared and took him back. His mom begged me not to leave because if he kills himself, she can’t live without him. Once I tried breaking up over the phone, but he had taken pills and had to be hospitalized for stomach pumping. I know threatening suicide is a form of abuse, but I have no idea what to do. It’s easy to say just leave, but if I break up and he really kills himself, I’ll have to live with the guilt that it was because of me.

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