What Women Expect: Loyalty to Me
A woman’s basic expectation is that her man shows the same unity outwardly as he does in the bedroom—body and soul in perfect harmony. Sex is the physical expression of love, a special gift shared between partners.
In other words, a man shouldn’t bring shame to their love or the sacredness of their intimacy by checking out other women—even if his partner isn’t around. The woman being ogled sees the man as fair game, whether he truly desires her or not. So, a man doesn’t boost his confidence by letting his eyes wander like an open drawer.
Many say, “Don’t worry if he’s happy at home!” Sure… but I always say, if I want schnitzel, I ask for schnitzel—not bologna.
If his appetite sparks elsewhere, he should satisfy it there—not humiliate me with the thought that I’m not enough in every part of life.
"A Woman Is a Man’s Responsibility"
When a man looks at another woman, it feels like he desires her, not the woman standing beside him. This is humiliating for a wife or girlfriend. It’s as if he’s inviting another woman into their sexual life, which—under normal circumstances—is a two-person affair. After all, every flirtation or getting-to-know-you phase starts with a visual spark.
This view from a woman isn’t about possession; it’s about genuine appreciation. Especially for women who—ideally—have been in a protective, defiant partnership with their man for a long time, the act of “checking out” is deeply degrading.
Because—no matter how much women protest—women do serve their men to some extent, taking care of them and trying to please them so their relationship thrives. Then comes the harsh reality of the man’s wandering eye, telling the woman she’s never good enough to earn the same honest admiration he gives another, no matter what she does.
Why Men Struggle to Find a Wife
From a man’s perspective, the message to women is: admiration only requires you to lift your chest, wear powder on your face, smile, and look good. Young women today strive to meet this expectation because it’s what ads, movies, and men’s behavior communicate.
Men have, in a way, spoiled women. Yet as they get older, men complain there’s no decent woman to start a family with.
Gentlemen, please share your thoughts: how can a woman willingly commit to true love when, statistically and due to male habits, she’ll only see her husband admiring “unborn,” ultra-demanding women, while she’s left with the emotional thorns?
Men and Visual Triggers
Okay, men are hunters—that’s how they’re wired. But they need to practice self-control. Why? Because admiring another woman with a genuine glance means they don’t recognize their own partner as much.
That one glance is a reflex, an honest reaction to a stimulus—not a calculated move, making it the most genuine.
This is a technical test for both women—one positive, one negative. Yet men believe this is natural, genetically and socially.
But no! Women messed this up by not uniting against this “male doctrine.” Our grandmothers were permissive, excusing it with explanations.
Grandmothers had it easier with wedding rings symbolizing serious security through religion and social norms. If a man crossed the line, he could be held accountable with consequences.
Today, women can only look elsewhere—hurting themselves with failed relationships—and raise kids alone while working endlessly.
Women Compete
Women constantly compete with each other—often unconsciously. For reasons I can’t understand, they want to be desirable not to men, but at the expense of other women.
This isn’t a problem if done discreetly, suppressing mating instincts. But especially among today’s twenty-somethings, it’s done shamelessly, humiliating and pushing down other women.
They reap the rewards, probably boosting their confidence, since ads, movies, and men suggest you’ll never be as good as—say—JLo.
So, dear men, it’s not enough to notice a new outfit or nail polish—though many men struggle with that—you need to truly admire the woman you live with. Admire her for loving you as you are, every single minute, and for all she does.
Women’s Coping Mechanisms
If a woman’s basic dignity isn’t respected—if her partner’s glances at other women aren’t addressed—no matter how many times a man says he loves her, it won’t feel real.
What does she do? She shops without thinking, tans, diets, works on her body, neglects her emotional and intellectual growth—in short, she becomes shallow trying to meet her man’s expectations.
In worse cases, she overeats, withdraws into her own world and family, barely meets expectations—thinking it’s enough to “not smell bad,” be a good mom, cook well, etc. Even worse, she might start flirting, leading to cheating and a reckless lifestyle—and the eventual breakdown of the relationship, no matter how deep the initial love. Of course, men don’t like this either…
I don’t blame men for everything; women can mess things up too. Still, I say: if a man wants respect, he must first respect the woman—even if she doesn’t fully deserve it. Eventually, things will fall into place, or if not, he can start looking elsewhere once he’s lost respect for her…
