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"Don’t Date a Psychopath!" – What Advice Would You Give Your 10-Years-Younger Self?

Szőke Angéla3 min read
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"Don’t Date a Psychopath!" – What Advice Would You Give Your 10-Years-Younger Self? — Lifestyle
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Breakup

“I’d leave that deadbeat ex of mine without looking back. I thought he’d marry me, but he just played me and wasted eight years of my life. I supported him for years before I finally pulled myself together and left. If I could go back, I’d shake myself and say, ‘Just leave already, what are you waiting for?!’”

The Apartment

“I lived cheaply in a small downtown rental, and the landlord kept urging me to buy his apartment, saying he wouldn’t sell it for much. I wasn’t interested at all—the rent was just a small part of my paycheck, and I spent the rest on myself. Now that apartment is worth three times what I could have bought it for, and my rent eats up nearly half my salary. No chance of owning a place. If I could go back, I’d tell myself, ‘Buy the apartment, you fool!’”

Investment

“Invest in companies making face masks and hand sanitizer, and buy shares in Novo Nordisk (a pharmaceutical company).”

Take It Seriously

“Take it seriously when your sister says she’s feeling unwell. Don’t make excuses—go visit her. My sister had cancer, but it was diagnosed too late, and she passed away within three months. I was working abroad and only visited once. I still carry that guilt.”

Letting Go

“Let go of the psychopath who only used you. Listen to your friends when they say he doesn’t love you and is playing you for a fool. My ex emotionally crushed me. I’ve been in therapy for years to heal the trauma he caused. He cheated on everyone, but I still believed him and thought my friends were just trying to come between us.”

Investment

“My advice? Buy Bitcoin!”

Regret

“My story is the opposite of the one before me. I met a girl at university, and it was love at first sight. Everything was great, but I didn’t want to commit young, so I broke up with her after graduation. That was ten years ago, and I haven’t had a serious relationship since, while she’s happily married. If I could go back, I’d tell myself not to chase what I already had.”

Results

“I’d share the most unexpected sports results from the past decade so my younger self could bet on them—and my current self would be rolling in it.”

Words of Wisdom

“Don’t argue with strangers online—it’s pointless. Quit smoking weed and stop watching porn daily; it can cause issues in your sex life later. Before starting any diet, cut back on alcohol—you drink way more than you think. Avoid personal loans—they’ll mess up your finances for years. Set pride aside and borrow from family if needed. Your dad is narcissistic and you’ll never be good enough for him, so don’t keep trying to please him. Forgive your mom; she did her best, and you owe who you are to her. Don’t postpone your backpacking trip after graduation—if you don’t start now, you might never. Always pay for parking—don’t let fines pile up. Spend more time with your grandma; she won’t be around forever, and you’ll regret neglecting her. And most importantly: love yourself more.”

Help

“I’d tell myself, ‘Go see a psychologist: don’t be ashamed or delay it. It will help so much that your whole quality of life will change.’ I wish I could tell my younger self this—it would have saved me ten years of suffering.”

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