In these marriages, some surprising truths about the women came to light.
The Shock
My wife and I had been together for ten years when I learned something about her that I still can’t wrap my head around—it's been two months now. I always knew her as a reserved, modest woman who wasn’t extreme in any part of life. She’s not passionate but reliable and my true support, my partner. Recently, I found out this quiet woman once had a boyfriend with whom she went to a swinger club. My wife! To a swinger club! Where she had sex with strangers! And she told me this as if it were the most natural thing in the world. She still doesn’t understand why I’m upset. (Because I am totally upset.) She says, "There’s nothing to it, and I’m making a big deal out of nothing." Do you think she’s right? Since I found out, we haven’t had sex, and even looking at her is hard for me…
Children
Our daughters were three and six when my wife confessed she never really wanted kids. She claims she only had them because "I wanted them." She never said she didn’t want children, not once.
The Actress
My wife is like an angel on earth. Everyone loves her, and I thought she loved everyone too—at least until now. We had a fight recently, and out of nowhere, she told me she hates my family. I was stunned because she never said a bad word about them, and she seemed almost friendly with my mom and sister. Now I’ve learned she "hates them with all her heart and only puts up with them for my sake." We’ve been married for four years.
Stunned
We were on our usual weekly date night at a nice restaurant. After the waitress brought our food, my wife said, "She’s pretty, she looks like Nóri." Before I could react, I said yes. Then I broke out in a cold sweat. I only know one Nóri—a woman I had a brief fling with two years ago. And the waitress really did look a lot like her. I stared at my wife, mouth open, and she laughed. "You thought I didn’t know, you silly?" she asked, and I couldn’t say a word.
The Message
I sent my wife a message and she replied almost immediately. She probably didn’t mean for me to see it and quickly deleted it, but I caught it just in time. She wrote, "I’d cheat, but unfortunately I’ve gained weight, hahaha." We haven’t talked about it since, and neither of us brought it up. I think she believes I didn’t see what she wrote. I don’t know what to think. She has gained quite a few pounds lately, but to me, she’s still as beautiful as ever. Was she joking, or would she really cheat if she were slimmer…?
Photos
We’ve known each other for eight years and have been married for five. I still feel like we’re in the honeymoon phase—at least I do. Two weeks ago, I would have said we’re the kind of couple who share everything and hide nothing. But now, I’m not so sure. I was looking for a photo on my wife’s phone and found something that shocked me. (We’re open about checking each other’s phones; I was actually looking for a picture of the boiler for the repairman.) I found naked photos of her in a hidden folder. She took them herself in the mirror recently, judging by her hairstyle. Sexy, posed shots—and she’s naked in every one. I checked her messages but found nothing compromising, though she could have deleted anything. If she didn’t send them to anyone else, who were these photos for? It’s not just the photos that upset me, but the fact that my wife has secrets.
