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"My Wife Was Just Plan B" – Guys, Why Didn’t You Marry the One You Were Truly in Love With?

Szőke Angéla4 min read
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"My Wife Was Just Plan B" – Guys, Why Didn’t You Marry the One You Were Truly in Love With? — Relationship
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Sometimes, it’s surprising what really shapes the men’s choice of life partners.

Settling

My wife can’t compare to the woman I truly loved, but she moved abroad and didn’t push me to follow. The one I married was my Plan B, but I respect her and have kept every promise I made at the altar.

Love at First Sight

At a house party, my wife and I locked eyes, and everything changed in that moment. I knew she was the one I’d spend my life with—and she says she felt the same. Just a moment, and we both knew we’d found each other.

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Family Ties

When I started dating my wife, I had no idea about her family background. After four months, I learned she was quite the catch. Her family had a multi-generational fortune, and all my friends congratulated me, saying all that was left was to propose and my life was set.

I used to think money didn’t matter to me, but I guess only those who have it can say that. I didn’t—I’d just finished university and was working for peanuts to gain experience. I took my friends’ advice and proposed. Her parents gave us an apartment, a car, and I landed a great job. Today we have two kids and still get along well—so I didn’t choose poorly—but sometimes I wonder if I would have proposed if she’d been as broke as I was…

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Unrequited Love

I married the woman I was in love with, but the problem was she didn’t love me back—and I knew it. Of course, she left me two years later, and we divorced.

Wild vs. Practical

I had a sweet but boring girlfriend whom I left for a woman who completely swept me off my feet. Zoé was a wild artist—unpredictable and incredibly passionate. I loved her, but I was over 35 and ready to settle down. I had to think about my future and knew I had to choose with my head, not my heart.

I couldn’t imagine Zoé as a mother or devoted wife. It was tough, but I broke up with her and apologetically went back to Kata, who welcomed me with the same love as before. She became my wife and the mother of my children, and I don’t regret my choice. Zoé still hasn’t settled down—at 47, she lives like a college student.

Loyalty

After being cheated on by several girlfriends, I married the one I knew would be faithful. Our passion might not be fiery, but I can trust her.

Second Time’s the Charm

I first married someone I thought I loved, but she just wanted to settle down and have kids, while I was drifting along. Twelve years later, I met a woman at work who I knew was my true partner. I divorced and this time, I married the one fate intended for me.

The Team

My wife and I make a great team, but there’s no passion between us. Our sex life was never great, but we knew we could count on each other and both wanted a family. Sometimes I regret settling, but looking at my friends, their marriages seem way more complicated than ours.

The Choice

There was a girl who was stunning and I know she loved me, but I married the woman who was my best friend then—and still is.

If Only

The woman I was in love with—and still am—left me for a successful businessman, so I had to find someone else. My wife is a sweet woman, but I never felt love for her, only fondness.

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