"She Secretly Spat in My Tea Regularly"

She said she had cancer and moved in with us to "spend her last months with her son." After a year, we found out she was perfectly healthy and just lying. I still can’t wrap my head around how someone could lie so massively, especially about something so serious. Since then, I’ve been convinced she’s not all there...

My mother-in-law treated me and my husband terribly, but especially him. She bossed him around, nagged, verbally abused him for everything, never had a kind word, and my love endured it all with sheepish patience. One day, I snapped. She didn’t like how her son fixed something at her place, and I saw her hand swing and land a huge slap on him. I went over, grabbed her shoulder, and told her that was the last time she’d hurt her son. If she didn’t change, she’d never see us again and would be alone. I took my husband’s hand, and we left. I thought he’d be mad at me, but with tears in his eyes, he said he’d waited his whole life for someone to stand up for him. We never spoke to her again.

For years—until our divorce—she nagged me for turning her son into a "wimpy servant." She meant that after eating, my husband cleaned up after himself.

My mother-in-law ignored me for twenty years. I can count on one hand how many times she spoke to me. She declared I wasn’t good enough for her son and never accepted me. She was a sweetheart to my kids and a good mother to my husband, but I never stood a chance. She was never rude or obstructive—her silence toward me hurt more than anything. Not even enough to be rude to me. Because of that, I felt like a nobody, and I guess that was her goal.

My mother-in-law always insisted we have tea together. One time, I followed her to the kitchen and saw her spit into my cup. She did this for years, and when I realized, I thought I’d be sick.

The kids spent just one weekend with her—something I strongly opposed but eventually gave in—and they came back saying, "Grandma said you’re not our real mom." That was the last time the old witch saw her grandchildren.

She wouldn’t let me be in the room when my father-in-law, brother-in-law, and husband talked. She said those were men’s matters, none of my business, and as a woman, I should know my place. I reminded her we don’t live in the Middle Ages anymore.

I wasn’t allowed at a single Christmas family gathering, birthday, wedding, baby shower, or even my father-in-law’s funeral. She banned me. To this day, I don’t know why she hates me so much; we never had any conflicts. I got so used to it that I let my husband go to family parties while I spend that time with my own family. That’s just how it is.

She nagged my husband so much, claiming our child wasn’t his (because "ugly") that we ended up doing a paternity test. I played along but was already preparing for divorce and moving out. Of course, the test proved I was right, and I told my mother-in-law not to worry—she wouldn’t see much of her "ugly" grandchild.

For ten years, my mother-in-law made my life miserable. Her constant line was threatening that her son would never love me. When I was pregnant and vomiting all day, she scolded me for not cleaning. When I was hospitalized with gallstones, she nagged me to pull myself together or my husband would find someone else. After my car accident, she only worried about her son’s expensive car being damaged (it wasn’t my fault, and we had insurance). She died five years ago, and I haven’t shed a single tear.

"She Secretly Spat in My Tea Regularly" – Toxic Mothers-in-Law

Fake Illness

The Slap

Man’s Work

Ignored

Secret Ingredient

Stepmother

Men’s Business

Holidays

The Test

Won’t Love Me

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