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"We Simply Outgrew This Relationship" – Real Divorce Stories

Zabolai Margit3 min read
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My Mom Told Him

My Mom Told Him
“When the woman my husband was having an affair with called and spilled everything, I just packed up and left. I didn’t tell him where I was going and ignored his calls. I wanted him to realize on his own that I knew about the affair and that it was over. I moved in with my mom for a while, and she helped me find a divorce lawyer. When he found out I was there, he came to the house. My mom opened the door and told him he couldn’t come in and that next time he’d have to talk to me in court because I was divorcing him. It wasn’t a pretty story, but I had no intention of giving him a chance to convince me to come back.” – Sara, 31

I Wrote Him a Letter

I Wrote Him a Letter
“After three years of marriage and six years together, I simply fell out of love with my husband. We started dating in our early twenties and just outgrew the relationship. I thought he felt the same because we barely talked and lived almost separate lives under one roof. I didn’t want to break his heart, so I wrote him a letter honestly sharing all my feelings and asked that if he felt the same, we file for divorce. He agreed, and we parted ways as peacefully as possible. Two years later, we’re still friends.” – Esther, 35

My Therapist Gave Me a Prescription

My Therapist Gave Me a Prescription
I think my therapist got tired of hearing me complain about our marriage and what felt like unsolvable problems. One day, when I came to see her, she handed me a prescription that said: "Tell your husband you want a divorce." That was the final push I needed. I walked out, got in my car, called my husband, and read him what was on the paper. I don’t think it surprised him. Not long after, we filed for divorce. I bet his therapist was happy too—and probably wondered why they hadn’t thought to prescribe divorce first.” – Erica, 33

I Just Filled Out the Papers

I Just Filled Out the Papers
“We’d been married for four years, and things kept getting worse. Every time we fought and I threatened divorce, he slammed the door in my face. One day, in the middle of an argument, I started filling out the divorce papers I got from the lawyer and showed them to him. He got so angry he tore them up. But I filled them out again soon after, and six months later, we were officially divorced. Starting to fill out the papers made everything real, and finally, we were able to end our relationship.” – Janka, 29
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