Men’s lives tend to have less drama, but even they sometimes turn their backs on friendships that have lasted decades.
The Accusation
He accused me of sleeping with his ex. Just the assumption was hurtful, but what really closed the door was that no matter how many times I said no, he didn’t believe me. I thought, if he can’t trust me this much, why should we even be friends…
Oops
He slept with my fiancée. Losing both my love and my best friend at once wasn’t easy.
Put Down
Attila constantly put down everything I did. My degree, my job, my girlfriend, my car, my apartment, even my hobbies—nothing was good enough. Everything I did was nonsense or lame. Once my girlfriend asked why I kept meeting him if I always came home in a bad mood afterward, and I realized she was right. Attila was only my friend because I’d known him since elementary school, and I never thought to cut ties. Honestly, my mental health has improved since he’s no longer in my life. Of course, he tells all our mutual friends that my girlfriend "stole" me from him and never reflects on his own behavior.
The Business
He spent months convincing me to invest a large sum in his "surefire" startup, which of course quickly collapsed. I never saw him or my money again.
Left and Right
He cut ties when he found out who I voted for. We never talked politics, and I didn’t care who he voted for, but apparently, it mattered so much to him that he threw away a 25-year friendship over it.
The Satyr
At a friend’s wedding, he spent the whole evening hitting on the bride’s 17-year-old niece. (We’re both 37.) We pulled him aside several times, saying, “Dude, stop, she’s just a kid,” but he didn’t care, saying, “She’s really sexy.” For me, he stopped existing right then and there.
The Realization
I took him to see the movie Moonlight. I wanted to tell him I thought I was bisexual and gauge his reaction. When we came out, he said, “Now I realize I hate gay people,” and laughed. That was the end of our friendship.
How He Treated Others
He treated his wife and kids so terribly that I couldn’t stand it. He bossed his wife around like household staff and ignored the kids completely. It shocked me because his father was just like that, and I thought he’d be the opposite—but no. He turned out just as useless, which was a huge disappointment.
The Incel
Bernát was never popular with girls, and after many rejections, he started resenting women. At first, he just complained about how picky they were, but soon he only spoke about women as "sluts." He began listening to "alpha male" podcasts and idolizing controversial figures like Andrew Tate. Eventually, all he talked about was bashing women and how much of a loser married men are. Sadly, we had to cut ties with him, but we told him he’s welcome to reach out if he ever gets back to being a decent person.
Radicalized
He bought an apartment in a rough neighborhood, and that’s where it all started. We warned him about the shady characters and high crime rates, but he only cared about the low property prices. After moving in, he gradually adopted more right-wing views. Eventually, he openly expressed fascist ideas, and I decided I didn’t need someone so toxic in my life.
