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Why I No Longer Feel Guilty About Taking It Easy in December

Nyul Debóra4 min read
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For many years, my Decembers looked pretty much the same: overtime, assignments, year-end projects, deadlines, and then the familiar feeling of "just barely making it to Christmas". Sometimes it was school, sometimes work that cornered me, and sometimes both at once.

While many experience this month as a time of coziness, rest, and holiday spirit, for me it was often the frantic final stretch of a marathon. Though it might have looked fine from the outside, inside warning bells were ringing louder and louder. Today, I make a conscious effort to avoid getting into that place.

The Body Doesn’t Forget — It Teaches

Over the years, I realized that constant pushing comes at a cost. Stress isn’t just a passing bad mood or tiredness; it’s a burden the body eventually can’t carry anymore. For me, this often showed up as falling ill after December. Last year, for example, I completely crashed on Christmas Eve — like my body was literally saying, "I’ve had enough".

This experience was the final wake-up call. I realized: if I kept going like this, I’d ruin myself every year-end, no matter how much I accomplished, if I was unknowingly harming myself in the process.

The Decision: Slow Down, For Me

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After last year’s illness, I made an important decision: December would no longer be the burnout finish line. Actually, no month should be. I realized rest isn’t a reward you earn only after you’re completely exhausted — it’s a necessity. Like eating or sleeping, it’s essential.

The key to change was a simple insight: I don’t always have to be "productive". The illusion of productivity can trick us into thinking we must always be on the move. But often, the best choice is to stop.

Walks, Quiet, Doing Nothing — New Energy Sources for My Soul

Now, I consciously make time to slow down — not just in December. Sometimes I go out into nature, take a walk in the nearby park, and simply enjoy being in the fresh air. Other times, I browse, shop for little things, or sit down with a coffee and allow myself to do nothing special.

These small breaks used to fill me with guilt, as if those hours were wasted time I should have spent working. Today, I know these moments give me the strength to tackle my tasks with balance and energy.

Less Rush, More Me-Time — Yet a More Productive Life

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Interestingly, since I welcomed rest into my daily life, I haven’t worked less overall. In fact, I might even be more efficient.

The difference lies in how I work. Not on autopilot, not racing against time, but by tuning into my own rhythm. I plan my days, allow space to pause, and that way, work doesn’t come at the expense of my health.

I realized: productivity isn’t about filling every minute, but about making the most of the minutes when I truly focus on my tasks.

Why I No Longer Feel Guilty About Taking It Easy in December

Because now I understand that taking it easy is often not laziness, but recovery. I get that both my body and soul need slower days, and I also understand that sometimes doing "nothing" is exactly what I need most.

Rest is no longer an exception but part of my life. It’s not an escape from tasks but an important act of self-care.

Slowing Down in December and Every Other Month

If I’m proud of anything from the past years, it’s that I’ve learned to listen to myself. I’ve learned to say no to overload and yes to me-time. This inner choice has made my whole life more balanced.

December no longer revolves around performance for me but around allowing myself what I once feared: peace. And perhaps even more importantly, I don’t limit this to December alone.

Now I know no month has to be about the rush, the relentless pace, or the pressure to prove myself. I can achieve so much more when rest is a natural part of my everyday life, not just a rare year-end exception.

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