Waiting won’t save you—no one else will. Therapy takes time and money, so I’m here to share the essentials I’ve picked up over the last ten years.
The Legacy of Our Parents
Are you carrying childhood wounds because your parents weren’t quite up to the task? Here’s a secret: no one on Earth had perfect parents. Got a dozen negative memories tied to them? You’re not alone—I can instantly name a dozen myself.
How to move past this? Remember they did their best with what they had and forgive them. Not for their sake, but for yours. Trust me, it’ll lighten your load.
Self-Care
Taking care of yourself isn’t just about face masks or scented bath oils. Sure, those are nice, but real self-care means getting at least eight hours of sleep, eating whole foods straight from the earth—not a factory—and replying to that email that’s been weighing on you for a week.
Setting Boundaries
I’m not talking about blocking someone on Instagram, but about not letting anyone take advantage of your kindness in real life. Learn to say no—firmly, easily, with a smile. It was tough for me at first, but once I got the hang of it, it boosted my quality of life more than I can say.
Don’t Chase a Bus That Won’t Stop for You
Because there’s always another bus coming. Don’t pursue someone for whom you’re not their first choice. You’re not a backup plan or a side quest. If they don’t get that, let them go play elsewhere.
Emotions
Emotions don’t kill you. Crying doesn’t kill you. Screaming into your pillow doesn’t kill you. You know what does? Bottling up your feelings. It eats away at your soul until you face it head-on.
Your True Self
"I’m searching for myself..."
You’re not searching because you don’t find yourself—you build yourself. Hard work, every day. Some days you build a lot, some days less, but every step counts.
No Savior Is Coming
Waiting won’t help—no one’s coming to save you. No divine rescue, no prince on a white horse, no Batman, and probably no rich distant relative leaving you a fortune. You can only count on yourself. Accept that you’ll likely be folding your own laundry for life. But take comfort: this is a universal experience, and if you’re reading this on a device, you’re doing better than 70% of humanity.
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Whatever your problem is, it’s not as deep, tragic, or important as it feels right now. No need to overthink—life moves on anyway. You’re not cursed, just a bit tired, hungry, or thirsty. Maybe a little chocolate will help. Sleep on it, and tomorrow will be better. If not, remember: three years from now, it won’t matter. And if it does, remember we’re all just tiny specks in the universe. If you’ve made it this far, congrats—you’ve saved yourself a decade of therapy.
