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Here’s What We Decide About Someone at First Sight 

Barbara Lee2 min read
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Morality, Competence, and Sociability

When people judge each other, they focus on three key traits: morality (whether someone is trustworthy and honest), competence (whether they’re smart and skilled), and sociability (whether they’re warm and friendly). Of these, morality usually takes the lead. In social situations, our main goal is to figure out if someone will help or harm us.

But competence and sociability matter too, and which trait stands out depends on the situation. When looking for a brain surgeon, you probably focus on finding the most skilled person. At a party, you want to connect with someone warm and approachable.

The Social Face

Researchers explored how well people think they can judge these three traits (morality, competence, and sociability) just by looking at a face. Across five studies, they found consistent evidence that people believe they’re better at judging sociability from facial appearance than morality or competence. In other words, people feel that looks can reveal if a stranger is pleasant, warm, and friendly.

This doesn’t necessarily mean people can accurately judge sociability from faces—just that they believe they can.

In one study, participants rated how appropriate facial appearance is for evaluating potential job candidates. They found it most fitting (and effective) to use appearance when judging candidates for roles involving sociability. (Participants were told a manager needed to hire someone friendly and likable.) The results suggest appearance bias can influence hiring decisions, especially for jobs requiring strong social skills.

Why do people think faces reveal sociability? The answer might lie in emotional expression.

Social traits often connect to emotions—how people show their feelings and respond to others’. Participants felt that traits linked to emotional expression (like warmth and friendliness) show up in facial features. Supporting this, people were best at recognizing social traits clearly tied to emotions (like enthusiasm and playfulness).

Don’t Let Beauty Blind You

This study adds to the broad research on how facial appearance affects judgments by showing that looks probably play an even bigger role in situations involving sociability. But focusing too much on appearance can lead to biased decisions. While people believe they can tell if someone is warm and easy to get along with just by looking, they’d likely be better off ignoring this info—especially when the stakes are high.

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