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"I Don't Feel Like Going Out, I Just Want to Be Alone!" – Why You Shouldn't Feel Selfish About It

Nora Berenyi3 min read
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Sorry, I’m Not Available Today!

Sorry, I’m Not Available Today!
Sometimes we question ourselves and honestly wonder if it’s okay to say no. Especially when it’s someone close to us who might even put a little pressure on us. Why isn’t it obvious that there are days when it’s perfectly fine to say no—even to family, best friends, or your partner? You could spend all day searching for reasons, but that’s only one side of the story—and it might not help much.

Instead, we encourage you to say no boldly and choose yourself without overthinking it! For example, if you’re invited out but would rather rest at home after a hectic week, just stay in! You won’t miss out, and you’ll feel so much better knowing you didn’t force your soul into anything.

Another Favor?

Another Favor?
I love helpful people and hope I’m one of them, but I don’t like it when someone takes advantage of that. You’ve probably experienced this too—it’s soul-crushing when you help others at your own expense. When you add helping others to your endless to-do list, you’re actually choosing them over yourself. Life can throw unexpected situations at us where helping is non-negotiable, but you still need to set boundaries. You can handle this politely without hurting anyone’s feelings. After that, how others react is no longer your responsibility.

These Aren’t My Desires!

These Aren’t My Desires!
In relationships—and even friendships—we often identify too closely with the other person. That’s understandable since we influence and shape each other, but how far is too far? It might sound odd, but the more perfect the agreement, the more it hints at losing yourself. We’re all unique individuals—that’s our superpower that sets us apart.

It’s great to share many dreams and desires, but in everything? That’s a red flag. That’s when it’s worth taking a moment for self-reflection and asking yourself: Are you living your own desires or just those of your partner, friend, or family? It really matters!

My Body, My Health

My Body, My Health
Every day, the world is flooded with diet fads, weight-loss products, and new workout programs—and it’s up to us to filter through them. Sure, everyone tries to push their way on you, but only as long as you allow it. You always have a choice, no matter who tries to convince you otherwise. It’s awesome if your best friend has started a paleo lifestyle, but that doesn’t mean you have to. Your body is your decision. You also get to choose the kind of exercise that makes you feel good. Maybe others love sweating it out at the gym, but if outdoor running energizes you, don’t force the weights.

I Choose Them Because I Love Them!

I Choose Them Because I Love Them!
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