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It’s Hard to Accept My Changing Body — Even When It’s for the Better

Schuster Borka3 min read
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Most people, when they start to see the results of regular exercise, happily admire their transforming bodies in the mirror. But my experience was quite different.

I didn’t start working out regularly because I was unhappy with my appearance. I had no clear “before and after” picture in mind, no desire for a dramatic transformation, and definitely not a new body. My reason was much more practical: as a woman approaching 40, I know how important it is to maintain (or in my case, build) muscle mass. My muscles aren’t just about looks; they support my bones, balance, and future mobility. What I’m doing now is a form of prevention — against osteoporosis, pain, and vulnerability. Muscle loss significantly increases the risk of osteoporosis — and as a woman, both risks grow with age.

Exercise Quickly Became Part of My Daily Life

Surprisingly fast. Not as a chore or something to get through, but as something I look forward to. It feels great to be stronger, to have a body that can keep up and adapt. And although it wasn’t my goal, the change became visible. Maybe it’s not obvious to others — no one looks at me and thinks, “Wow, she’s ripped!” But I see and feel my body changing. My clothes are tighter across my back. My thighs are thicker and firmer. My body is claiming space where it didn’t before.

I’ve always been a slim girl. Not because I worked hard for it, but because that’s how I was built. It became part of my identity, even though I never thought of myself as vain. Being “slim” wasn’t an achievement — it was a given — yet it was still me. Now I see in the mirror that this trait is shifting. It’s not disappearing, but it’s not the same anymore. And I was surprised by how hard it is to accept that.

Woman during high-intensity workout

It’s tough to get used to clothes fitting differently. What once felt like “me” now feels a bit unfamiliar. I don’t always know how to define myself right now. I’m not a different person overnight, but something has shifted. And this shift — as positive as it is — and as superficial as it might sound:

It brought a sense of mourning.

It’s strange how much we cling to who we were. How hard it is to let go of a version of ourselves — even when we know the next one is healthier, stronger, more resilient. I also realized that, despite thinking I was immune, I’m influenced by the beauty culture we live in. Even though I know my new body is better for me, sometimes I miss the old, weaker, but slimmer me. I know this isn’t right, healthy, or helpful. But to rewrite what the beauty industry has planted in my mind, I first had to admit it was there.

Portrait of a muscular woman in the gym

This Was a Painful but Important Realization

Despite the changes and the moments of doubt when I look in the mirror, I’m not going to stop exercising. I won’t sacrifice my health on the altar of an ideal that puts thinness above all else. But I’m not rushing my acceptance either. I know I have a long journey ahead. My body is changing — and it will keep changing in the years to come. And I need to prepare not just my muscles, but my mind and soul for that.

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