Just One
I had a friend who once casually showed me a steamy photo of his mistress, like it was the most normal thing in the world. I just stared, surprised, while he grinned proudly about his "great girl." I told him I’d known his wife for ten years — she’s an absolute angel on earth — and he just shrugged, saying they barely had sex anymore, so he "looked for something new." That was the last time we met. I cut ties because, honestly, I couldn’t accept that on a human level. His wife really is one of the sweetest women I know, and I can’t understand how someone could betray such a treasure.
Birds of a Feather
Luckily, I don’t have friends like that — we’re not that kind of people. Some buddies have fallen for others, but they handled it respectfully: they told their wives and only started new relationships after separating and discussing everything. I believe our group would reject anyone who cheats on their partner because if someone can betray their loved one, they can betray you too.
Many
Our wider circle has about ten guys, and 5 or 6—roughly half—are cheating on their wives or girlfriends. They cover for each other, providing alibis if the woman asks. I’m not saying I like this behavior, but it’s so common that I just don’t focus on it.
The Other Side of the Coin
I have several friends who have cheated or are currently cheating, but honestly, women aren’t far behind. About as many of my friends have been cheated on as those who cheat. I’ve cheated on girlfriends myself, and I’ve been cheated on multiple times. It seems like this is just how modern relationships go.
Ha-ha
I don’t know of any long affairs, but I’ve been to three bachelor parties where the groom ended up hooking up with a stripper.
Szabi
We have just one friend like this: Szabolcs. He’s a total ladies’ man—tall, athletic, and handsome—he can pick up almost anyone. He got married last year, but that hasn’t slowed down his habits. Honestly, he’s the only one doing this because he’s the only one who looks good enough to get away with it.
From Dog to Bacon
Here’s some advice for the ladies: if you marry a guy you "stole" from someone else, don’t be surprised if he gets stolen from you too. I have two womanizing friends who will never change. They were like this in high school and still are in their 40s. Sure, their lives might be exciting, but for me, my wife is more than enough—I don’t need a mistress.
The Realization
During a totally innocent beer night, it came out that three of the five guys in our group cheat without any guilt. Another buddy and I listened in shock: one regularly picks up women on Tinder, another meets girls at parties, and the third has had a mistress for years—even before his wedding! We were stunned because cheating on our wives never even crossed our minds.
Bad News
The numbers are grim. So many men around me cheat. I hear them talk about it at the gym. I know about my brother-in-law and uncle too. Out of three friends, two openly discuss it: one brags, the other suffers, torn between choosing his wife or his mistress.
Easily
Since online dating—especially Tinder—became everyday, men don’t need to put much effort into dating. There are thousands of women just a tap away. I know a guy who, if he fights with his girlfriend, finds someone on Tinder that same day and she stays over. Honestly, if I were a woman, I wouldn’t trust my man’s faithfulness.
