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"She can feel like a woman again beside me" - Men who had affairs with married women: why did you do it?

Szőke Angéla4 min read
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"She can feel like a woman again beside me" - Men who had affairs with married women: why did you do it?
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Simple

The best casual sex is always with married women: they don't cling to you, they don't stay long, because they rush home. They know what they want in bed and don't hold back. Basically, such an arrangement only has advantages.

Beneficial

I consider it a charitable mission on my part: I give tenderness - or if they ask for it, wild sex - to a woman who hasn't been in bed with her husband for years, who no longer sees her as a woman. Beside me, however, she can feel like a woman again and this is good for everyone.

The tables have turned

In my twenties, I wasn't interested in this when I tangled with an older, married lady. On one hand, I could barely control my hormones and I was happy for every "opportunity", on the other hand, I didn't really think about the moral approach because I considered that I wasn't the one who was cheating. Then I turned thirty and I also experienced what it feels like when someone cheats on you. Of course, it hurt terribly and after that, I never started with a woman who was taken. I didn't want someone to feel the way I felt when my partner cheated on me.

Affair with married women
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Tricked

She said that they haven't been together for a long time, only on paper, because they haven't been able to sell their house yet, so they live under the same roof, but separately. For a whole year, she fooled me until I realized that I am just a lover and will remain so.

Feeling good

I was even proud of myself that she wanted to be with me despite having a husband. It felt good that she was willing to risk her marriage for me. I thought that I am not the problem, but her marriage is.

Fetish

Married women are my favorite "demographics." We could probably even say that they are my fetish. Somehow these relationships are more exciting because they have the magic of the forbidden fruit. That both of you know that you are doing something forbidden and you shouldn't, but you do it anyway. Once one of these affairs even left her husband for me, but as soon as she became single, my enthusiasm disappeared.

Married women
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Responsibility

Every month, I drive hours to the countryside to be together with my high school sweetheart in a small hotel, who - according to her - lives in a "happy" marriage and has three children. Once I mentioned to her that maybe she shouldn't be doing this to her family, but my conscience didn't take me any further. I think this is her responsibility.

Exclusivity

I only start with married women. I'm not married, but I'm in a long-term relationship and I have no intention of leaving my girlfriend, because I will marry her and she will be the mother of my children. However, adventure is unfortunately necessary, so I usually meet in the gym, exclusively with married women. This way I can be sure that the affair will never be revealed, because she has just as much to lose.

Fake

She pretended that her husband was a jerk, an aggressive guy, but she couldn't leave him because of the children, because she financially needed him. I was in love with the woman, I supported her financially for years and waited for when she would be free so that we could finally be together. It turned out that she never planned to leave her husband, and what's more, I wasn't the only one she cheated on, and she gave this story to everyone about her marriage. She just enjoyed the attention and money she got from me.

Love

We worked together. We both lived in cold marriages and tried to hold ourselves back for months, but love was stronger. A few months after the affair, we both confessed to our spouses and got divorced. We have been together since, our wedding will be next year. I know it was not nice how we got together, but I don't regret anything.

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