One sunny morning, while enjoying an espresso at one of my favorite artist cafés, I admired the paintings and installations decorating the walls—always surprising me with fresh, intriguing themes. But this time, just around the corner, I spotted something unusual: a black bag with white letters saying, “Nobody loves me.” Below, in smaller print: #onceamonth. In that moment, I instantly got the message and smiled—who hasn’t felt this way at some point during their cycle? Hormonal shifts throughout the female cycle often put us on an emotional rollercoaster, and this installation perfectly captured that exact moment when these feelings break through.
The First Phase: Menstruation
Menstruation is one of the most well-known—and sometimes least loved—phases of the female cycle, marked by bleeding. During this time, the body undergoes various hormonal changes that affect both our physical and emotional well-being. In the first days, the body sheds the built-up uterine lining, often accompanied by fatigue and mild discomfort. This phase usually brings tiredness, low energy, and occasional mood dips. With low estrogen and progesterone levels, feelings of sadness or anxiety can be more common.
But as the cycle progresses, usually around days two or three, estrogen levels start to rise again. This hormone boost often lifts our mood and energy, making us feel refreshed and ready to regain our usual rhythm. While mild cramps may still occur later in menstruation, this period is a great time to gather your strength and get back on track.
Energy Boost in the Follicular Phase
After menstruation ends, a more energetic phase begins: the follicular phase. This stage includes the maturation of follicles and a significant rise in estrogen. This hormonal shift often brings increased energy, motivation, and emotional balance. Many women feel sharper, more creative, and productive during this time.
This phase is perfect for starting new projects or diving into physical activities. The estrogen-supported boost in mood and alertness creates a strong foundation to tap into your full potential. You might also notice changes in cervical mucus, signaling that ovulation and peak fertility are approaching.
Ovulation and the Sensual Phase
Ovulation marks a peak in the cycle when several hormones, including estrogen and luteinizing hormone (LH), surge. This triggers the release of a mature egg. During this hormonal fireworks, many women feel most attractive, confident, and sexually aware. It’s a natural time when the body seeks connection, making emotions feel more intense and vibrant. The confidence boost encourages trying new things, enjoying social life, and tapping into your inner energy.
While many experience this surge strongly, it’s important to remember that every woman’s experience varies. Some may feel less of this uplift, and the intensity of social and emotional energy can differ. Overall, though, this phase tends to bring a noticeable increase in vitality.
Luteal Phase: The Start of the Waves
Following ovulation is the luteal phase, which can bring new challenges both physically and emotionally. Progesterone, produced by the corpus luteum, prepares the uterus for a possible pregnancy. As progesterone rises, sensitivity increases, and feelings of fatigue and irritability—often called premenstrual syndrome—can appear.
These days are when the message on that bag resonates most with many women. The body reacts more strongly to outside stimuli, and feelings of sadness or anger may surface without clear reasons. Along with emotional waves, there’s often a stronger craving for social connection, even as energy reserves slowly dwindle.
This phase invites inner reflection, encouraging many women to seek balance within. Honest conversations with friends or loved ones can ease pressure and offer support during tougher days. As this phase ends, progesterone levels drop, making way for the next menstrual cycle to begin and the process to start anew.
Throughout the female cycle, countless hormonal shifts shape our mood and physical state. While each woman experiences these phases uniquely, their common patterns help us understand the powerful forces at play. By tuning into our cycles, we gain insight into our inner workings and can live in harmony with our body and mind. Self-awareness and acceptance make navigating the beautiful, sometimes challenging journey of womanhood a little easier every month.
