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"Some days, I just don't enjoy being a parent": 3 single parents get brutally honest

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We tend to see single parents in one of two ways: as superheroes who somehow hold everything together, or as people to be pitied because their lives must be so hard. The truth is far more complicated than either.

The three parents below opened up about feelings they almost never say out loud — because they're afraid of being judged, of the guilt that follows, or of being misunderstood. Their honesty is refreshing, and probably more relatable than you'd expect.

"Sometimes I envy two-parent families"

"My son was six when his father and I divorced," says Nóra, 39. "It's just been the two of us ever since, and honestly, we work well together. We have a calm life, we love each other, and I'm proud of what we've built."

But there's one thing she rarely admits out loud. "Sometimes I envy two-parent families."

She says it's hard to confess because people jump to conclusions. "I'm not longing for my ex-husband. I would never want to go back to that relationship. It's just that some days I'm tired."

What she misses most is having someone to share the responsibility with. "When my child is sick, when work and the household and everything else all land on me at once, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have another adult in the system."

Nóra believes single parents often feel they always have to look strong. "But the truth is, sometimes it would be so nice not to do everything alone."

"There are days when I don't enjoy being a mother"

Eszter, 44, has been raising her daughter alone for ten years. "I adore my child. That's not in question. But there's a thought we treat almost like a taboo."

For a long time, she couldn't even say it herself. "There are days when I don't enjoy being a mother."

Society, she says, still struggles to accept that love and exhaustion can exist at the same time. "If a parent says they're tired, everyone's understanding. But if they say they've had enough sometimes, that's when the strange looks start."

The hardest stretch for her was the start of the teenage years. "There were evenings when I sat in the kitchen crying, because I felt like I had to make every decision on my own. There's no one to ask whether I'm doing it right."

She's convinced many single parents carry the same feelings. "I wouldn't trade my child for anything. But I'm still a person, and there are days when I simply run out of steam."

"I'm scared of what happens if something happens to me"

Gábor, 48, has been a widower for eight years. His son was just nine when the two of them were left on their own.

"People think the hardest part of grief is the first few years. But these days something else keeps me up at night."

There's a fear he almost never talks about. "I'm scared of what will happen to my son if something happens to me too."

He says the thought weighs on him far more than it used to. "When there are two parents, you instinctively feel there's a safety net. We don't have one."

Gábor has organized every important document, written a will, and talked with his sibling about what would happen if it came to that. "I know these are rational steps, but the fear is still there."

It's hard to bring up, he explains, because people rush to reassure him. "They tell me not to think about things like that. But I believe this question crosses every single parent's mind."

For Gábor, solo parenting carries a particular weight. "Every decision, every responsibility ultimately lands on you. You can live with that, and there's a lot of joy in it too. But there are thoughts only the people walking the same path truly understand."

Why do single parents rarely talk about these feelings?

Because they're afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or made to feel guilty. As these parents describe, admitting to envy, exhaustion or fear often invites strange looks rather than support.

Does feeling tired or frustrated mean you love your child less?

Not at all. As Eszter puts it, love and exhaustion can exist at the same time. Loving your child deeply and having hard days are not opposites — they often go hand in hand.

What do single parents miss most?

According to Nóra, it's having another adult to share the responsibility with — especially when a child is sick, or when work and home life pile up all at once.

Why does solo parenting feel so heavy at times?

Because every decision and every responsibility ultimately falls on one person, without the safety net of a second parent. As Gábor explains, that reality can be lived with, but it carries a unique weight.

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