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Have You Praised Yourself Lately, or Was It Just Time for Others Again?

Margaret Wolf3 min read
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Have You Praised Yourself Lately, or Was It Just Time for Others Again? — Lifestyle

There are days when you wake up telling yourself you’ll get through it, just finish this one thing, and then you can rest. But somehow, there’s always another task, another message, another person who needs you. Before you know it, you’ve worked through the whole day without saying a single kind word to yourself. It feels like everyone else comes first, and you only get your turn if there’s some time left over. Spoiler: there rarely is.

Sometimes, you don’t even allow yourself two minutes to lean back and just be. There’s always that little voice whispering, “There’s time for this later.” But often, that “later” is too late. When we should be resting, we run out of energy. And that’s exactly when we need the love we’ve been giving away all day the most.

But if you’re honest with yourself, your everyday acts of courage hold your greatest strength. Getting up even when you’d rather hide under the covers. Carrying on with your day, even when you feel like falling apart inside.

Giving kindness to others when you’re the one who needs it most is so easy to take for granted—but it’s anything but ordinary.

We tend to downplay our own achievements, even though every day we prove to ourselves that we can handle it. If a friend shared the same story, you’d tell them how proud you are of their strength, how much they’ve accomplished, and how rare it is to see someone hold it together like that. But when it comes to you, you shrug it off: “Yeah, yeah… but it’s still not enough.” As if praise is only for others. As if you only deserve it after doing something “big.” But honestly—why can’t what you did today be enough?

What if, from now on, we didn’t just let this slide? You don’t need grand words or huge goals to pause for a moment. One simple thought directed at yourself is enough. Just say: “Great job. You really gave it your all today.” And if you’re tired, overwhelmed, or falling apart, say it even louder: “You made it through today. That alone is enough.”

And you know what’s the best part? You don’t always have to be strong to be proud of yourself.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit you’re tired. To ask for help. To stop and not rush on just because you “have to.”

The kindness you give others without a second thought is something you deserve too.

I know, sometimes it’s harder to love yourself than anyone else. It’s easier to celebrate others than to recognize that you deserve celebration too. But think about it—the strength you use to start fresh every morning, the empathy you share with others, and the courage that keeps you moving forward even when you want to stop—they’re all inside you.

You don’t have to be perfect to praise yourself. Being present is enough. Trying is enough. Moving forward is enough. So ask yourself again: Have you praised yourself lately, or was it just time for others again? If it’s the latter, let today be the day you give yourself some love. Because trust me, you’ve earned it.

About the author

Margaret Wolf

Margaret Wolf writes about relationships, family and the quiet emotional weather that shapes both. She’s drawn to the bits other columnists skip — the in-laws, the dog, the friendship that went strange in your thirties — and treats them with the same care as the big stuff.

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