Schuster Borka
Schuster Borka is a Bienvibe contributor writing vetted, bite-size lifestyle inspiration on wellness, style, relationships and more.
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Second Time Around: Why I Still Believe in Marriage After Divorce
Marriage often feels like a once-in-a-lifetime commitment. But what happens if the first try doesn’t work out? Borka Shoemaker shares why she still believes in marriage even after divorce.
Fountain of Youth or Just Another Trend? What You Should Know About Collagen
Collagen has become one of the biggest beauty superstars in recent years, but is it really that versatile? Let’s see what the science says!
Genes or Upbringing? What Really Shapes Who We Become?
We’ve long tried to understand how our personality develops, often asking: do our genes or our upbringing shape us more? Modern research sheds fresh light on this classic debate.
"It’s hard to picture you just sitting still." – Why can’t I ever get bored?
Our modern lives have trained us to see silence and stillness as unnatural. But why are we so afraid of boredom, and what might we be missing out on?
Pop-of-purple: This Trend Will Carry Us Through Winter
When the holiday sparkle fades but the first spring colors are still far away, many of us can feel trapped in winter’s gray gloom. The pop-of-purple trend offers a fresh, bold purple pop to brighten this tough stretch.
Free Apps to Support Your Mental Health in 2026
Taking care of your mental health will still be a priority for many in 2026. While an app can’t replace a professional, it can be a great companion on your journey of self-awareness and mental wellness.
French Braids Are Back: How to Rock Them in 2026
French braids are making a stylish comeback in 2026 as a relaxed, bold statement. Discover how to wear this classic hairstyle every day and for special occasions.
Is It Okay to Leave Problematic Friends? Here’s Why I Did
I believe true friends show up in tough times. But sometimes, it’s perfectly okay to step away from a friendship.
On the Altar of Self-Sacrifice: How Far Are We Responsible for Others’ Feelings?
For a long time, I believed being a good person meant caring about others’ feelings. But over time, I realized I’m not responsible for every emotion someone else experiences.
6 Things You Should Never Put in the Washing Machine if You Want to Keep It Safe
The washing machine is an incredible helper at home, but not every fabric or item is made for machine washing. Learn which things are best avoided to protect both your clothes and your machine.
Trauma, Attachment, Narcissism: 5 Therapy Terms We Often Misuse Every Day
More and more of us are using therapy terms outside the psychologist’s office. It’s great that mental health is gaining attention and understanding, but misusing these words can actually cause harm.
Overthinking Everything? Here’s How to Turn It Into Your Superpower
Overthinking often gets a bad rap, but when guided right, it can actually work in your favor. Here are three ways to transform overthinking into a productive tool.
Ask Your Child to Draw a Scientist – Why Their Drawing Matters
Children’s drawings of scientists reveal a lot about how they see the world and social roles. The ‘Draw a Scientist’ experiment helps us understand the image of scientists living in kids’ minds.
They Didn’t Even Listen to Me – Why Do We Feel Like Doctors Don’t Care?
Many of us feel overlooked by doctors, even when they genuinely care. This feeling stems from a mix of psychological and communication factors.
Colorful Diamonds and Unique Shapes – The Hottest Engagement Rings of 2026
Engagement ring trends keep evolving, and 2026 is no exception. Discover the styles that will dominate the world of engagement jewelry next year.
Research Shows: This 1-Minute Practice Instantly Boosts Your Relationship Quality
Keeping relationships alive takes effort. This simple practice can bring you closer to your partner in just one minute.
You Either Conquer Your Demons or They Raise Your Child – Why Every Parent Needs Therapy
We all carry something from our childhood that shapes us as adults. Therapy isn’t a luxury—it’s a responsibility to stop passing our wounds onto our kids.
Feeling Like an Outsider? Here’s Why You Might Feel Left Out in Every Group
Do you often feel like the odd one out in social settings? This feeling can trace back to deep roots, like emotional neglect during childhood.
It’s Okay to Crave Alone Time: 3 Signs You’re Spending Too Much Time with Your Partner
The clearest sign you might be spending too much time with your partner? You’re actually asking yourself that question. Science also highlights a few key points worth paying attention to.
The "Invisible" Sexual Identity: Living as Asexual
After spending a long time in the shadows of invisibility, asexuality is finally becoming more visible. This helps young people find themselves and their identity, and it can shift how we think about sexuality.
Who Am I If I'm Not Useful? - How I Learned to Value Myself Beyond My Work Output
For many of us, work often shapes our self-worth. Borka Shoemaker shares how she learned to appreciate herself regardless of what she accomplishes.
Burst of Joy, Then Sudden Regret: How I Learned to Live with Impulse Control Disorder
Impulse control disorder makes it tough to resist sudden urges. In this article, Borka Shoemaker shares her personal journey and practical tips for managing impulsivity.
Family Alienation: Why Are More Adults Cutting Ties with Their Parents?
Most families spend Christmas together with some minor disagreements but overall joy. Yet, some wonder: is it worth forcing a relationship just because of blood ties? They’re not alone.
Why I See It as a Red Flag When a Couple Says, “We Never Argue”
Many people take pride in never arguing with their partner, but is that really healthy? A relationship becomes truly safe when it can survive tough conversations.